How can I stop thinking of my husband with this woman he had an affair with?

I would recommend marriage counseling if you want to try and save your marriage. They can offer you help in dealing with all of the hurts and anger. They can help you begin to put your marriage back together again.

take care

well, you won't stop thinking about it until you are able to get past it...not, necessarily, over it but past it and that won't happen until your heart and mind are good and ready and you can't will it that way. The best way to put it out of your mind at least for a time, stay busy: go out with your friends, take some classes, go on a trip. Basically, concentrate on yourself for now and doing those things that you've always wanted to do but haven't. Build yourself up and be a little selfish for now. The better you feel about yourself, the easier it will be to put things into perspective.

That is one thing I couldn't put up with, so when it happend to me I got a divorce.

higher a giggalo

Have sex with your husband's brother or best male friend. Everytime you see his brother give him a knowing wink and call him by his best friend's name during sex.

forgive him or leave him.

but i like TouchMeNot's idea better!

Iam also going through this , although it has been 1 1/2 years since it has happened. My husband had an emotional affair with a girl(I use that word losely)he worked with. we had at the time been married 20 years.He first told me he was unhappy with our marriage and didnt wont the responsibilities that came with it.( We have 2 teenaged sons)then came the shocker that he had the same feelings for me that he did this other person.( She was just recently separated from her husband)It didnt take me long to figure out who it was. The writting was on the wall for ahwile. He did leave that job but he went out and got his own personnal cell phone with a different carrier then I had so they could talk to each other.( he no longer uses this phone) At first I did not make him leave but about a month later I had enough of my children and I being treated like we didnt exist. I told him to leave. He came back and told me that he told his FRIEND that it was over between them. But it wasnt!! It kept on for another month and half until i was ready to give up on my marriage and finally told him that I was tired of being hurt and if he was as willing to work on our marriage as he told me he needed to end it for good. He has had no contact with her since then. He has shown me that he loves me very much in alot of different ways. He never wore a wedding ring due to his jobs but now wears it faithfully on his finger At first i thought about him and this other person every day but as time goes there are days that i may think about it once and these days are getting more frequent. You will be able to forgive (I have) but you will never forget. My story is really alot longer than this but it would take me all day to write about it. But trust me the thoughts do diminish in time

when you are in bed with him picture the man of your dreams and imagine thats who he is...thats assuming you want to work through it..if not then go get the man of your dreams and have it large. Or you could make a pretend her and you can yell at her poke her in the ribs get everything off your chest then bury it somewhere away from your home. and let her go. if he has done it you should too.

counceling, counceling and then...some counceling