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She's watching me as I ask this question... looking disgruntled. Should I worry she'll get her pet army after me? ETA: Thanks guys. I think I understand I should just let her guide herself so I'll back off. I just want her to enjoy math and she's been frustrated. :)
DisorderlyCyn DisorderlyCyn 41-45, F 21 Answers Jan 31, 2013 in Parenting & Family

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She is eight years old, and she is good at math, just let her go at her own pace.

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must be American - lol

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Only half American. :)

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I have to remove my shoes to count up to twenty. What's the problem?

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I would buy something I know she wants and hand it to her and tell her that she has to hold it tightly with all of her fingers and count to a number that you KNOW she can count to without using her fingers. Let her know she can play with the item for ten minutes (or whatever time you deem appropriate) after she counts for you successfully to that number without using her fingers or anything else to count on. Then let her have her play time. Take the item back and periodically give her the opportunity to earn play time with it.

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im 15 and i still count on my fingers, and i still hav a 90 in geometry, counting on fingers is not a bad thing, in my opinion :)

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But you don't feel like it slows you down? That's my main concern. She takes so long with all her finger counting and I wish there was some magical method for her to learn not to do it.

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nope it doesnt slow me down, i actually do math faster wen i count with my fingers, i understand wat u mean thoug, how old is she?

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Maybe I should just teach her to count fingers faster! She's just eight but she's so good at math now it seems to hold her back.

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oh i understand, but i guess its watever works for her, i think if she continues to use her fingers to count she will get better on her own, and with yur help she with learn even faster.. i hope she gets better at it ^-^

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The main reason it bothers me is because it frustrates her. She's smart enough to process the calculation if she remembers the "fact" like 2 + 2 is 4. That's how I visualize it. I say the entire fact. I guess I've learned them all in my many years I think it should come natural. I'm a HORRIBLE math person. Seriously I think I have dyscalculia. It tickles me so much to see she's good at working out the problems, but it frustrates her to have to stop and count on her fingers over and over.

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Good luck, I still do it sometimes!

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stick her fingers up her arse and then yell suppertime

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At 8 it's perfectly acceptable for her to be counting on her fingers. I teach first grade, which is 6 and 7, we promote them using their fingers as do the second/third grade teachers. It may slow them down, but it also helps make sure they do it correctly. If you are dead-set on her not using them, google 'Touch Math' which is basically where you touch each number that amount of times (touch 2 at 2 points to count, 3 at 3 points, etc.) I'm 25 and I do sometimes use my fingers to count. It's not a bad thing.

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Oh thank you so much! It's so good to hear this. I should have thought to ask her teacher and I'd probably have been told the same thing. I really appreciate your answer. I'm perfectly fine with her using her fingers if she needs to, I was just hoping for a way to help her learn the "facts" themselves. I don't know if flashcards are that effective or if I should just let it go. Thank you so much again. :)

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For math facts, there are flashcards online you can use or I bet her teacher can provide some. Doubles (1+1, 2+2, etc) are the easiest ones to remember and we teach them to use a double to find the answer. So if a problem is 7+6, they know that 6+6 is 12, so adding one more gives them 13. Flashcards can be helpful if she uses them often enough to get it to click. They make and sell different kinds of addition/subtraction flash cards, but honestly any of them will work as long as you use them and not too many at a time, you wouldn't want her getting overwhelmed to the point of frustration or giving up. Good luck :)

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Thanks again! I remember they worked on doubles last year in first grade but maybe she could use a refresher. Anything I do will have some sort of fun involved or she'll just get distracted anyway. She loves playing Math Blaster so maybe it really will come to her soon enough.

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Don't, I'm 43 I still do it.

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teach her to count her toes

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just leave it

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Buy her a chinese abacus , That solved the issue with mine .

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I will do that! Thanks!

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Ask her to count to 12

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Clever but I'll elaborate. She's counting up or down depending on if it's an addition or subtraction problem.
I just asked her what 12 minus 4 is and she had to pop her eyeballs out and count up on the ceiling but she got it right!

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I wouldn't worry about it too much. I would focus more on making sure she enjoys math. So many times I have seen people teach their children that math is hard and unpleasant, so the kids develop a disdain for math. If you teach them it is fun and rewarding, they will learn it much easier and better. I'd look for some day to day games or activities that inlcue math.....like rolling two or three dice and having to come up with the total, etc. to make it fun.

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Thank you. :) That's exactly what I'm hoping for here. I see it frustrates her and I don't want her to dislike math. She has autism too so she gets frustrated just a little bit easier but she's so bright I'm happy she does seem to enjoy working out the puzzles math presents. She's always had a passion for numbers and counting and sorting. I hope maybe math skill is part genetic and she got something special from her father. But I want to do my part and make it as fun as possible too, because that's my part in her genes. :)

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How old is she?

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She's eight years old as of December.

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That's just how some people work and learn. Maybe she's a visual or kinesthetic learner. I don't think there's a problem if she gets the answer correct.

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