People reveal their feelings and frustrations to those they feel safe with. Doing it without hurting is a bit of a skill. I think he loves you, but behaved insensitively, and simply needs to learn how to deal with his feelings without you feeling attacked. Explore ways it could have been done better.

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There should be a balance here. We can *all* get off about some issue or other and, sometimes, forget to turn if off and before we know where we are, we are firing at innocents and that can mean those closest to us. It *does* happen to lots of couples and it's usually sorted out in either one holding up their hands and being truly sorry. He’s apologised, but only you know if he is sincere and you don’t say this is a frequent occurrence which would make the apology of no value. It’s hard to answer without knowing more.<br />
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If he does this lots, then (of course) you need to speak with him. If he puts you at the point of blame, in this instance, then he’s wrong. He's wrong simply because you are at the receiving end of his anger. He *knows* he’s wrong, but if there are repeats of the same sort of incidents then he needs telling that you won’t put up with it. If he isn’t willing, or isn’t able, to pull the reigns in when something like this happens, then there is an obvious problem that needs sorting out. In effect you are looking for a firm, lasting solution more than an apology.<br />
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Ok, stay with me here.<br />
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Who hurt who?<br />
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What it sounds like to me is two people in very different places meeting up and not connecting.<br />
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He was frustrated and needed to vent, and vented, and told you it was not about you. Whether you wanted to be or not, you were for him as a listener. He probably does love you, and was thinking only of what he wanted and needed.<br />
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You were ready for a romantic interlude, and you expected him to be on the same page, and you felt personally let down when nothing like what you hoped for happened. You probably love him, but you were only thinking of what you wanted and needed.<br />
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I am not saying this to sound harsh - but we hurt ourselves by holding onto expectations, by telling ourselves stories, and by not being honest. If you had stopped him kindly and said "I am not here to listen to you complain about all of this" what do you suppose would have happened?

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He knew he was upsetting me because he came into the kitchen and put his arms around me and kissed my neck. Then the emosional kicking starting again

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I am a fan of The Work of Byron Katie. Not sure if it would help you or not, but its free, and the videos on Youtube might be of interest to you.

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sad but it is very easy any more it is just words so manyhave foggoten the true meaning on many words

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