How can we remain friends? My b/f and my cousin are in a custody battle...?

They have a child together. They are both good parents but have split up and both desperately want custody. She started a big fight with me about a month ago and haven't spoken since (even though we see each other regularly cuz we work together) turns out she thought it would be easier to end the friendship cuz she figured i would end up hating her anyways w the whole court battle she knew was coming. I care about her and her family alot and it's so wierd not having her around. How do I remain friends with her and still be close to my cousin? He is like a brother to me... the have constantly put me in the middle of their fueds in the past I couldn't bear getting involved with their custody dispute...

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I would send them both an email and say you love and care for them and the child and you refuse to be in the middle. You want to be a part of everyone's life, and you hope they will let you do that. You are hoping that they can be mature and respect your decision to remain neutral throughout this process. You want to be there for all of them, to love them, offer them support, and to be their friend.
send it and see what they say.... You can only offer your support and love, whether they choose to accept it is their choice.
Hang in there!!!

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Other 4 Answers to How can we remain friends? My b/f and my cousin are in a custody battle...?

denverguy	Posted Jul 1st, 2009 at 7:03PM Sadly if she does not want to remain friends as you do there is no real hope. Rated: +1Vote for this!
ShadowofDoubt	Posted Jul 1st, 2009 at 7:09PM People tend to lash out first, it's only later they think about their actions. Maybe driving the point home, you care for both of them and it's not fair to you or them to drag you into the middle. Been there. Rated: +1Vote for this!
TrgdyAnn	Posted Jul 1st, 2009 at 7:29PM All that matters is who's friends with the CHILD. They need ALL the attention they can get because the parents are fighting each other and the judge has to referee them. Where does that leave the child? Outside, and alone. Please be their friend! Rated: +1Vote for this!
Greg862	Posted Jul 2nd, 2009 at 2:05AM Probably should avoid becoming involved with ex's of your cousin in the future. Anyone who gets involved in a situation like that has to expect bad blood from someone. If she got along with you after breaking up with your current B/F, with that whole custody thing going (even if they WERE friendly with each other)....THAT would surprise me. But her not getting along with you now, under these conditions? No surprise there. I could have told you that the first day you told me you were considering dating her ex. Rated: +1Vote for this!

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