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How can you get more self-confidence?

This is a serious question. I hate looking at myself in the mirror, in shadows, anything. I feel ashamed of myself, even though, there is nothing wrong with me. I just think I have low self esteem, because I have been overweight my whole life, and dealing with that.
How can I get more self confidence?
Does the answer lie in my weight loss?
How can I lose weight to feel confident in myself?

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    MrWinstonSmith - 22-25 years old - male

    Posted by MrWinstonSmith Jan 1st, 2013 at 11:12PM

    I was bullied alot in school, It destroyed my self-esteem and my confidence. I was too shy after a few years of that to even dare interact at parties or draw attention to myself in any way.



    I then realised that this was no way to live. So I made myself confident again.


    It was quite simple, if your weight is a big issue, then maybe losing some will help a bit, but the chief task is training yourself to be comfortable again. I just gritted my teeth and forced myself into the middle of social gatherings, and drew attention to myself, asserted myself, no matter how uncomfortable it made me, and believe me, it made me VERY uncomfortable.

    After a while however, I started getting used to it. I figured out how to recover from embarrassing situations, how to keep a conversation going and so on, I even learned to dance. I just threw myself into a situation I was not comfortable with over and over until I was comfortable with it.

    Now I'm the confident on in my circle of friends. I'm still self concious about a few issues, but I know they probably won't come up.

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8 Answers to "How can you get more self-confidence?"

  1. funnynun - 18-21 years old - female

    Posted by funnynun Jan 1st, 2013 at 11:06PM

    hold your head up and put your shoulders back. if you project it you will feel it. (also, tell yourself "STOP" when ever negative thought start to form, they will only kill your confidence)

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  2. glee12 - 13-15 years old

    Reply by glee12 Jan 1st, 2013 at 11:10PM

    ok, thanks. i will try. self confidence is all about how you portray yourself, and how you feel about yourself, is how others feel about you, is what i've kind of gotten from this.

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  3. LivingDavid - 46-50 years old - male

    Posted by LivingDavid Jan 1st, 2013 at 11:04PM

    Every answer IS in the Bible... when we understand how much our Creator loves us we become more confident, but it's not really self-confidence. It's more of a humble opinion of ourselves as we realize how God-dependent we are!

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  4. sgtpepper1990 - 22-25 years old - female

    Posted by sgtpepper1990 Jan 1st, 2013 at 11:02PM

    There's unique about you and that's what you have to discover.

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  5. glee12 - 13-15 years old

    Reply by glee12 Jan 1st, 2013 at 11:05PM

    i don't know what it is though! everyone tells me that everyone is good at atleast one thing, but I don't seem to be exceptionally good at anything. whenever someone asks me what i like to do, i never have a response. it's kind of frustrating.

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  6. lisaandshasta123 - 41-45 years old

    Posted by lisaandshasta123 Jan 1st, 2013 at 10:59PM

    I would look up meetup.com and look for your hobby and join that group. Also ask a librarian if there are any self-esteem groups or codependent groups and see if those seem to help.
    Go to a book store and ask for books by SARK. These are women empowerment books. It will feel silly at first doing the exercises, but if you go through the books and do the exercises you will feel better.

    Volunteering somewhere will give you immediate positive self-esteem.

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  7. maltesemermaid - 41-45 years old - female

    Posted by maltesemermaid Jan 1st, 2013 at 10:57PM

    become more independent . . . the more you do on your own for yourself should do it . . . the more you do the more confident you will become . . .

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  8. southernstar1987 - 22-25 years old - female

    Posted by southernstar1987 Jan 1st, 2013 at 10:57PM

    if you dont like it change it....confidence starts with you...ive never really lacked it i took the bad and used it to...

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  9. ilovenellyxoxo - 13-15 years old

    Posted by ilovenellyxoxo Jan 1st, 2013 at 10:55PM

    I wish I knew

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