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How can you make yourself appear confident when you have really low self esteem?

I've been struggling with extremely low self esteem for many years, since I was around the age of 10. As a result, my self confidence is nonexistent. I compare myself to others quite often, especially the people who I find influential.

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  1. KeezyDerp - 18-21 years old - male

    Posted by KeezyDerp Dec 30th, 2012 at 3:19PM

    listen to i'm sexy and i know it everyday for a month

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  2. lisaandshasta123 - 41-45 years old

    Posted by lisaandshasta123 Dec 30th, 2012 at 3:36PM

    wear nice, in style, colorful clothes and smile, SMILE, SMILE!!!!

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  3. chimbie88 - 31-35 years old - male

    Posted by chimbie88 Dec 30th, 2012 at 3:32PM

    well... the only thing I can think of is a trick that helped me a lot. When you make eye contact with someone, instead of looking down, if you need to look away, look to the side of them, as if you are looking past them. But don't look down. Looking down shows shyness and insecurity. Looking to the side looks like you are looking at something else, but it doesn't come across shy. I even practice this in the parking lot at the supermarket. I make eye contact with everyone, even when they aren't looking, then when it feels right, I look to the side, but I keep my head up. Good luck! :D

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  4. Cuddlytoy - 51-55 years old - female

    Posted by Cuddlytoy Dec 30th, 2012 at 3:27PM

    Fake it and when people around you believe it, this will give you real confidence. Go to a public place and sit with a coffee, to people watch. You'll notice confident people and people with low self-esteem, by the way they carry themselves.

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  5. Makessense - 66-70 years old - male

    Posted by Makessense Dec 30th, 2012 at 3:26PM

    Comparisons are always futile; believing in yourself is all about focusing on your strengths but be honest with yourself and be true to your feelings. Don't pretend to be anything that you're not and don't listen to others who try to convince you that you are wrong or define who you are. Trust your intuition and your feelings to make the right decisions and decide every day which direction you want to go. I wish you success!

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  6. SkidlelyBoeBoe - 31-35 years old - male

    Posted by SkidlelyBoeBoe Dec 30th, 2012 at 3:24PM

    i'm the same way I always change my face and posture in public when people see me feeling down they wonder how much further down can they make me
    so I try to look like i'm victorious or just achieved some impossible goal

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  7. MilweePisces - 18-21 years old - female

    Posted by MilweePisces Dec 30th, 2012 at 3:23PM

    Keep head held high and always smile also don't worry about what other people think it's all about you and what you think :)

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  8. trapped21 - 26-30 years old - female

    Posted by trapped21 Dec 30th, 2012 at 3:23PM

    Do things that make you happy, not to please someone else...begin with that feeling and build upon it.

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  9. iwalydg - 41-45 years old - male

    Posted by iwalydg Dec 30th, 2012 at 3:21PM

    Simple. Wise people are the best listeners, and are always thoughtful when they do speak. When you are confident about what you say, your self-esteem issues aren't such a massive problem. When you are a practiced good listener... You'll collect a lot of good knowledge.

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  10. scatterheart - 13-15 years old - female

    Posted by scatterheart Dec 30th, 2012 at 3:21PM

    Watch this! You won't regret it.

    http://www.ted.com/talks/amy_cuddy_your_body_language_shapes_who_you_are.html

    It'll help a lot.

    As for appearing confident - shoulders back, chin up, longer strides, chest out, and dress well and with self respect.

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  11. lakerboy1981 - 46-50 years old

    Posted by lakerboy1981 Feb 15th, 2013 at 4:58AM

    Yes plus would love to tickle you too

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  12. kkk101010 - 13-15 years old

    Posted by kkk101010 Dec 30th, 2012 at 3:42PM

    you cant.

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  13. champ4life - 51-55 years old - male

    Posted by champ4life Dec 30th, 2012 at 3:23PM

    practice Buddhism.

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  14. Blondeangelmom - 56-60 years old - female

    Posted by Blondeangelmom Dec 30th, 2012 at 3:21PM

    Fake it till you make it...like actors do

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  15. RachaelR - 18-21 years old - female

    Posted by RachaelR Dec 30th, 2012 at 3:21PM

    Compare yourself to most people.
    Forget influential.
    R

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  16. NHub - 26-30 years old - male

    Posted by NHub Dec 30th, 2012 at 3:21PM

    If you find out let me know

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  17. username31 - 31-35 years old - male

    Posted by username31 Dec 30th, 2012 at 3:20PM

    Beers a great booster :) ya carnt appear to be ya just need to be with people that make you confident n then it will show

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  18. peza - 46-50 years old - male

    Posted by peza Dec 30th, 2012 at 3:20PM

    tell **** jokes and ingratiate yourself like a slimy sycophant.

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