If you love them genuinely, and it's not infatuation, then I think you are just going to love whom you love. <br />
All you can do is distract. You can try to focus on the less favorable aspects of the personality and lifestyle of the person. You can try to reason it away and remind yourself that it isn't going to happen. That it wasn't meant to be. That things happen or don't happen for a reason. That there is probably a big difference between what you think the relationship would be and what would actually happen. <br />
Then you try to stay away from this someone and reprogram your mind to focus on other things and people. <br />
I've had to do this. All of this.<br />
But, in my experience, if it's love...... you love who you love. Love can change somewhat. And if you love someone who is an illusion, then it can die with that illusion. Because you never loved something real. But love in its truer form- its greatest and most singular characteristic- is that it lasts.
story of my life
You can only stop yourself if you want to stop otherwise that person is always with you and the more he/she is with you, the stronger your feelings become for that person. Not healthy and incredibly sad as well but yet living with what could be and what isn't is somewhat comforting than living with nothing at all.
so true i think the more you try to stop the harder it is
It depends on the individual but as for myself,I'm married to a lovely lady but still fell in love with another woman.She moved away and my heart was broken...and still is.I believe loving someone you can't have is like a bereavement,you come to terms with it but never truly recover.
Is there hope after all this time have you learned to love again
Just forget about it-no means no-cannot change their mind. All that obsessing is gonna make you hurl. Move on and before you know it there will be another to break your heart.
Have the willpower to stop thinking about this person all the time.. <br />
It's not easy but it ain't that hard maybe..
I fell in love with a man many years ago, and have moved on, but know in my heart he was the only man for me. You learn to get on with it, but your heart is never the same again, nor does it really belong to anyone other than that person....you never forget and never stop loving.
You don't stop yourself from loving someone you can't have. You either find a way to "have" them, or project that person onto someone else and love them instead.
By finding someone who you can have ;)
You dont because even if you cant have them you cant stop loving them.---- this is not to say life shouldnt move on but the feeling can grow and the benefits can be reeped. Pleasure has no sacrred cows
The faster you get away from them the easier it is to let it all go away.
Get to know them.