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How can you tell if someone close to you is trying to sabotage your efforts to become independent?
I still live at home but slowly I am becoming more independent but it seems like someone is sabotaging my good work and trying to stop me from leaving. How do I find out who it is without arguments occurring?
Posted 1 month ago
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You just have that feeling...When you continue to go on with your life more and more, it'll become evident whether your thoughts were accurate. My mother currently does the same thing even though I do not live with her anymore. Sometimes people don't even realize it. Some people aren't used to others having their own mind. They're used to others being there and doing what is convenient for their needs but when you become your own person, naturally that gets in the way of the other persons needs.

All I can say is live life the best you can for yourself. People in this world will forever be out to get others in one way or another. Not everybody but some people.
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Posted Nov 14th, 2008 at 9:48AM
Who would have a motive? If you live with your parents they may subconsciously want to keep you under their wing. I could answer more sensibly if I had some idea what you're talking about.

If you have any definite grounds for your suspicions, you need to confront the perpetrator. If an argument ensues, so be it.
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Posted Nov 13th, 2008 at 11:35PM
You'll just have to talk to everyone. Arguments may ensue. Try not to go around accusing everyone, though. That would not go over too well. Plus, you're not even sure if anyone is trying to sabotage you.
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Posted Nov 13th, 2008 at 11:41PM
It just not worth it to figure everyone out. We just have to carry on with our own beleifs and have it shown you were strong and will endure. I felt as is I had to show people my agonizing side but everyones has battles. I want to yell at stupid people all the time. As my sister would say will it improve your life ?
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Posted Nov 14th, 2008 at 2:57AM
If you found out, would it really matter?
Perhaps nobody is purposely sabotaging you...
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Posted Nov 14th, 2008 at 1:40PM
While they are in bed set it on fire. This should make them tell you the truth when you scream your question through the locked bedroom door.
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