Some people are just not nice to be around,best leave them alone.
That is not always the case. Some people try to move on in life with a positive outlook and accept that there are things in their past that are just that, the past. Myself included.
Often they do it because they think that if they hurt you first you can't hurt them. Their abuse has left them unable to form normal relationships. Please don't waste your precious life on damaged angry people.
because its a learned response
Sometimes, people are broken in such a way that the very thing that is broken is the one they need to bring themselves back together. It's tragic, because for people like that there is no going back, ever. Trough no fault of theirs, they become the very thing they hate. And in their state, they can't even see that.
If that's all they knew how would anyone expect them to act "normal" anyway? Even if they try they still might totally twist the reactions into a cold deadness where they can't even comprehend what they are doing wrong, and maybe they don't even know how to care about that since everyone will continue to treat them like complete **** anyway since they have no idea how deep it ****** them up so they lost all effort and would rather others just ****** the hell off.
Because the quality you said about is called 'saintliness'. Expecting people who are hurt and angry to display 'saintliness' is no less than asking for the sky.
Hurt people hurt people.
I guess it helps them in someway to do that.
Yeah, be nice if they would stop with them.
I've actually had this happened to me. There has been people I knew who were raped. I understand the healing process takes time. However, I noticed because of my soft quiet personality in the group I use to know, there would be a selective bashing of anger and judgment (sometimes in front of others) when they would ask for advice, and it would be given, and it would be thrown back into my face. I decided with people like this to stay quiet BUT at the same time, start distancing yourself little by little. I've had people who noticed me ignoring them, and even tried to justify their behavior. Yes, people go through crazy ****, but does not mean others who have not harmed them have to take it, so with that said, continue to distance yourself. And as you do, bless them from afar and that they find someone who will reach them, or they discover healing sooner. Meanwhile, continue to focus on you.