Leave her out of your twisted fetish. Women aren't into it, no matter how much you wish they were.
Womens clothes only look good on women. If you dress like a girl then you will look very silly. It's like asking your wife to dress herself in y fronts and overalls and work boots. Now does that sound like a turn on to you? Don't mess with this, it is not going to be fun for your wife. If she liked girls why would she marry a man.
There is help out there for that condition!
Start by throwing away your boxers/briefs...and buy your own panties...sexy or cotton grannies...<br />
BTW, I know several ladies who like to dress their guys in sexy lingerie...so for every fetish/kink there are folks of both genders who like it...