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hey everyone I wanted to know you opinion on this and wanted to know if there is a way to know if your with the right man.

me and my feionsei have been together for 5 years, sometimes were happy, but others i want to leave an never come back. so now what should i think if my feionsei says that he LOVES me, but he really hates our relationship, and doesn't want children with me what should i do?
me and my ex were also together for 5 years, and until he cheated on me we were happy, now from what i gather from him is that he says that he is changed and he wants me back. he said that he still loves me deeply, but the only problem with that is that he got another girl pregnant while with her, an he still wants to be with me.

I dont know what i should do, and i need some help in deciding which one is the right man.
thanks in advance for the help

The answer would be NEITHER one sounds like the right man for you!

You made some heavy statements about both of these guys - that make it evident that you haven't found your Mr. Right and you are wasting your time.

YOUR FIANCE:
"sometimes were happy, but others i want to leave an never come back."
"says that he LOVES me, but he really hates our relationship, and doesn't want children with me what should i do?"

Obviously, you and your fiance are not on the same page! You want kids, he doesn't. You say he hates your relationship and that at times you want to run away from it. I don't think going through with your engagement is in either of your best interests.
Marriage is something that is a result of an unconditional, strong bond that should be based on giving and receiving and when faults in a person become "quirks" something you love about them. When you think about your partner, you shouldn't be thinking about who else you should be with. Obviously, you and your fiance are not ready for marriage (and may never be)... Otherwise you wouldn't be considering your ex as an eligible partner or replacement.

YOUR EX:
"he cheated on me we were happy, now from what i gather from him is that he says that he is changed and he wants me back... the only problem with that is that he got another girl pregnant while with her."

First, there is no such thing on cheating when you are happy. You may have been happy, however, it is evident he wasn't because he went out looking for someone else.
AND, don't you find it a little odd that now he is in a relationship with someone else (pregnant with his child) and he wants to come back to you, telling you he loves you and wants to be with you??? He is already cheating on her, starting an emotional affair with you, how the heck would you trust someone who has cheating on you, now cheating with you? You choose this joker and he will be cheating on you withing the first month!


I say move on.. find someone other than these two guys!!