First of all, you're not alone. There are thousands (maybe millions) of couples who are engaged in an underground lifestyle called Interracial Hotwifing. It's just a specific form of Swinging.<br />
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That being said, it is very common for wives to initially react to your suggestion by thinking that it is somehow cheating. The underlining reason why (and she probably hasn't told you this yet) but subconsciously she probably suspects that you are cheating on her. It works like this - She can't understand how this could be a turn on to you yet. Therefore, the only logical reasons why you would suggest such a ridiculous things is either:<br />
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a) You have been cheating on her and are starting to feel guilty about it and you think if she sleeps with another man then everything is even steven.<br />
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b) You want to sleep with other women and you think if you can get her to sleep with another man first then you will get a pass to sleep with other women.<br />
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The good news is that unless she has a specific aversion to black men, there is no reason why she can't develop an interest in sleeping with another man while you watch. The truth is, any woman who has said to herself "Wow. He is cute and sexy. If I wasn't married, I would do him in a heartbeat" has the potential of becoming a 'Hotwife' if encouraged properly.<br />
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The trick is communication. You need to reaffirm to her that you are not interested in sleeping with other women (assuming that is the case) and explain to her why it turns you on so much. Once she understands (and believes) that you don't have any ulterior motives, she will be much more open to the idea. It also helps to show her that there are many other couples out there doing it too and that most of them have very stable marriages. In fact, if you two have any trust or insecurity issues in your relationship, I would suggest you hold off on this until you two work things out. <br />
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Finally, my wife and I talked about this for years but it wasn't until I bought her some Interracial Hotwife erotic novels before she completely opened up to the idea. I would recommend you both read Sharing Destiny by Taylor Thomas. It is a fictional romance novel but it explains why the husband likes doing it, why the wife likes doing it and how it can be beneficial to the relationship overall. One month after reading this book, my wife did her first black guy while I watched. I have to say, that despite all my concerns of experiencing feelings of jealousy, I felt none of them and was only disappointed that it didn't last longer. My wife was surprised at how easy it was to do too. Ultimately, our only regret is that we didn't start doing this sooner.<br />
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Good luck on your adventure and don't forget communication is key.

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my wife said she went out with a black co worker while she was previously married and was having trouble with her husband. she said they kissed and her would rub her **** but never had sex. she said she even stayed at his house one night but no sex. to me thats hard to believe. because in my dreams she did have sex and would do it again with me watching them.

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