How do I cut off contact with an ex to protect myself but still try to be friends with him?
Is this even possible? Of all the books I read, questions I asked on here, the common answer is to cut off all contact to detach from the emotional connection I have with my ex. I know its something I have to do so I can start moving on and taking care of myself. But a big part of me still cares so much about knowing where he is and what he's doing and if he misses me and I want him to continue to contact me if he wanted/needed to. I guess Im still hoping that by keeping my doors open, he'd realise that he wants to get back together with me after I've given him the time and space that he needed to work out his issues. I feel like if I cut off all contact with him, he'll forget about me and another girl will reap off all of what I have worked for to help him become what he is now. he's been my only serious relationship and a very long one, spent most of my 20s with him and now im on my 30s and have no idea how to start a new relationship (with him or anyone else). please help me.