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My fiance moved in my house within a month of us getting together(not a complete stranger! We been friends for 5 yrs!) Although i love him very much, i am realising he is not the man i thought he was. He makes me the same promises and then breaks them, mainly saying we can talk, and then he cant be bothered or too tired. He sulks if we (my daughter is 13) don't like the food he cooks, and he will not stand up to his mother on my behalf. My question is this: How do i get him gone, when just the thought of him not being here makes me want to cry!(what a wuss!)

i had to face facts, he had to go. he went, last night.

He sounds like he has a personality disorder, to me....a lot like my husband, the more posts of yours I read....

These things you describe, are not "faults"...this is the way he handles things in his everyday life...he's complacent....he goes in one day, and out the next, with no regard to what you need out of this relationship....and then, he pouts like a little boy, when he doesn't like something on his end.....This is WHO this man is, not little quirks he has....

It took his mama a lifetime to create this...and it will take a lifetime of undoing the damage....literally....are you willing to wait a lifetime?

I'd just be up front with him....tell him how you feel....and do it in a safe place....people can go crazy when being told a relationship is over (especially if they are not mature, grown men)....so, maybe have a friend over, so that you have moral support.... tell him, just before your friend is supposed to arrive....

It doesn't matter how you tell him...be prepared for the promises to change, to get help, to talk more, to care more....all the things he promises and never keeps.....(another reason it would be good to have a friend over)....or....

You could always pack his things....box them up, while he's at work....