How do I fix my anger problem? It's ruining my marriage and my relationship with my kids!
I know I'm abusive to my family; physically and mentally. I know it is causing all of us to be stressful, unhappy and I want to stop, but I haven't been able to fix myself by myself. My parents had this same problem but after they separated for 3 years, it didn't happen anymore. I love my family and I don't want to repeat that!!!
To prevent from blowing up I use a few tools: I lose myself in computer games, go work out, go drive, stay at work late. But I still have the urge to explode on my family when certain conditions ocur; no money in the bank, money spent on crap, trashed house, dirty kitchen, trashed car, garage a mess, sustained stupidity on any basic subject.
Then when I get really upset, my spouse tries to prevent me from leaving the house, which doesnt go well.
We're not completely dysfunctional as we still go out as a family every other week. I think I was worse when we were first married, I didn't try to control myself at all before. I'm trying but it's not enough.