My therapist has had me start tapping when I start getting the urge but your problem may be different from mine. My daughter does it because she wants to hurt herself. She wants to feel pain to block out emotional pain. There's a different approach to hers than mine, which is to halt an episode of derealization. It's the only way I know how to stop it but I'm working on tapping my wrist with a pen. I have added watching a short video of myself while I tap to remind myself I'm me. My daughter would have a different plan. <br />
Either way it goes, you need someone to listen and help you work out why you do it. Only then can you get started healing. Until then you'll struggle. Have you considered a counselor at school? There are suicide hotlines with people who will talk to you and help you when you're fighting, but they can only do so much. Sometimes having someone to talk to helps though.<br />
You're welcome to add me and ask any questions. I've been doing this for about 25 years.
Kudos to you for doing what you need to do to get help.
You could contact your school counselor to talk to your parents and/or find you someone or a program that can help you.
I still think another adult you can trust would be a good idea. They could help you find the help you need.
call 911 and tell them you want to commit suicide. they will send you to a mental help facility and get you some treatment
i understand completely, i was just thinking of a way you could get to actually see a doctor or therapist. if you are in school, why cant you talk to your school counselor about it, and maybe she can help you out, otherwise i dont see any other option if your parents wont help you at all. do you have a suicide or teen help hotline in your town? try calling in to one if there is one available.
you are very welcome. i have had similar issues growing up and i had to seek help on m y own. if there is anything i can do to help you let me know, okay?
Walk into a hospital someplace and tell the nurse that you cut yourself frequently...see what happens next.
Then you don't want to get help yet. When you decide that you do, there are places for you to go.
I don't think you do.
You know the path.
You just refuse to walk it.
Fear stops us all from getting what we need or want. Are you afraid of what people will say? They will say she was strong enough to get help when she needed it. Are you afraid of being dependent on others? We ALL are dependent on each other. You want to be in control of yourself at all times... Fine. Be in control of yourself enough to let someone else help you. You can not be in control of everything until you have the capacity to allow someone else to have control. That is true control of ones self.
I understand that. I am here for you. You have nothing to fear from me. Perhaps if you wish to talk sometime, we can meet in a chat room of your choosing.
You do have a predicament... kinda like getting caught in a pickle between second and third base...Why are you pushing your family away?
Certainly. You are afraid that if you even openn the door just a crack to let them in, they won't come. That would hurt you deeply and you want to avoid that at all cost. So you deny them the chance to hurt you by keeping them at arms lenght. I have done it myself...
Unfortunately, Family goes deeper than that.
The warmth and acceptance you truely crave, is only available once you trust someone else enough to let them in.
Unless you come from a family full of violence and rage, your folks will not hurt you intentionally, particularly if you ask them for assistance.
What about Aunts and Uncles? Cousins you are close too??? You must have someone you can talk to...A religious figure or teacher?
I just signed on to encourage you again to get help. Take a friend to your guidance counselor with you, if you need to. Your counselor has probably dealt with worse things, and he or she won't be disappointed in you. Counselors go into that career because they want to help! <br />
Your life is important! You shouldn't have to be so unhappy. Get some help now, and someday you'll look back on this and wonder why you didn't do it sooner!
Call your local mental health center, or a crisis hot line, they will be able to get you the help you need.
I know it's scary, but you really do have the inner strength to do it. Once you do, you'll be surprised at how easy it really was. Please, please get the help you need. Life will be so much better when you begin to heal.
If you are having to cut, then they might already be doing some of those things you fear. Conquer your fear, it will be one more positive thing in your life. Don't worry about what others think, remember that great saying, Those that matter won't mind, those that mind, don't matter.
Been there, I know it's scary, but if you have the will to ask here for help, the next step is actually easier than you think. Call the crisis hot line, they will talk to you without needing your name or anything. They are trained in helping. Just please talk to someone.
The ones I know about will ask for your first name just so that they can talk to you. They will be very understanding and helpful, please trust me. They only want to help and by law can not give any information to anyone you don't approve before hand. Please just call them.