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How do I get an ex from awhile ago to stop contacting me? w/o being totally rude.....

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    olddreams - 56-60 years old - male

    Posted by olddreams 1 Jan 27th, 2012 at 9:41PM

    A lot of women wrap their self image around being "nice." Most of the time that is great, but an unintended result of being nice can be mixed signals. Part of the miscommunications between men and women, is a woman's ability to hear and communicate in vocal tones that a man neither hears nor understands. Because of that, women need to be more clear and more blunt when talking with men, if they want to communicate.

    Many times, when a woman thinks she is being rude, the guy thinks, "Thank you for finely saying what you mean."

    There are times when it is appropriate to not be nice. This sound like one of them. Be clear. Be firm. Don't worry about hurting his feeling or coming across as rude. You want him out of your life, so why worry about it.

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  1. kindacurious2 - 46-50 years old - female

    Reply by kindacurious2 Jan 30th, 2012 at 8:09AM

    Ahhhh yes the difference between men and women....ugh...

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12 Answers to "How do I get an ex from awhile ago to stop contacting me? w/o being totally rude....."

  1. livingalone666 - 46-50 years old - male

    Posted by livingalone666 Jan 27th, 2012 at 9:28PM

    sometimes you have to be rude for someone to get the point, be reswpectful but say hey enough, he will get the pict, if not restraining order.

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  2. kindacurious2 - 46-50 years old - female

    Reply by kindacurious2 Jan 27th, 2012 at 9:30PM

    thanks and I have said enough is enough....I made it very clear and nicely and in person. I did not cop out and break things off over the phone or via text....I keep hoping he gets the picture

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  3. serenitypending - 41-45 years old - male

    Posted by serenitypending Jan 27th, 2012 at 9:28PM

    Gain a hundred pounds and send a nude pic

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  4. kindacurious2 - 46-50 years old - female

    Reply by kindacurious2 Jan 27th, 2012 at 9:30PM

    ummmm ewwwwww lmao

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  5. Blogger422 - 36-40 years old - female

    Posted by Blogger422 Jan 27th, 2012 at 9:26PM

    Just tell him. You're not being clear enough and may be giving mixed signals. Tell him if he calls or visits again you will change your number or call the police (if he drops by). I had to do that recently and it worked.

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  6. kindacurious2 - 46-50 years old - female

    Reply by kindacurious2 Jan 27th, 2012 at 9:30PM

    I am not sure how much clearer...I dont want to see you anymore can be

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  7. Blogger422 - 36-40 years old - female

    Reply by Blogger422 Jan 27th, 2012 at 9:43PM

    Men are stupid that way. As long as you keep talking to him when he calls or visits, they will think you are playing hard to get. Either that or they think you don't really mean it.

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  8. winelover199 - 46-50 years old - male

    Posted by winelover199 May 18th, 2012 at 3:31PM

    Just tell him " after our relationship, I think I'm gay now".

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  9. atadir - 51-55 years old - male

    Posted by atadir Jan 27th, 2012 at 10:05PM

    Nothing wrong with being rude to an ex, particularly if he's taking advantage of your good nature.

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  10. starlight1303 - 22-25 years old - female

    Posted by starlight1303 Jan 27th, 2012 at 9:52PM

    Somtimes being nice dosnt work
    The best you can do is in steps
    1. Please stop calling/texting I cannot handle this. if you respect me you will.
    2. I thought i asked you to stop, nothing will change between us accept it (keep ignoring)
    3. honestly if you keep harassing me , i tryed being nice but if i have to be mean i will like calling the police ect.
    4.cops will be called asap.

    I had to do this.. some people dont get the message
    or in my case wanted a "real" reason why i broke up
    I dont know how much clearer Im not happy , we fight to much , theres nothing there can be

    I ignored to the point that person showed up at my door banging on it with rage
    its like anything i said never registered, like i was unheard the whole time

    I called the cops ( after they arrived the phone rang off the hook,, guess whoooo)
    the cop answered , and my problems stoped instantly once they know your serious
    they should seroiusly stop

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  11. Snapple10 - 31-35 years old - female

    Posted by Snapple10 Jan 27th, 2012 at 9:48PM

    What about just totally ignoring him? As in, Oh, you're still there? He might even be a weirdo who likes the negative attention of leave me alone. Ignoring him might be the ultimate insult and your best best. Then you wouldn't necessarily have to be 'rude'.

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  12. scottoc - 31-35 years old - male

    Posted by scottoc Jan 27th, 2012 at 9:46PM

    Maybe you can tell me. I think it has been 8 years now.

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  13. lightkanna - 18-21 years old

    Posted by lightkanna Jan 27th, 2012 at 9:44PM

    You're never going to contact him again, be rude, I'm thinking it's the only way for him to know you're fucken serious.

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  14. beachykeen - 51-55 years old - female

    Posted by beachykeen Jan 27th, 2012 at 9:29PM

    Tell him you wish him well but do not wish to start anything up again and its best just to not communicate.

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  15. justkoz - 61-65 years old

    Posted by justkoz Jan 27th, 2012 at 9:25PM

    Nothing wrong with being rude. He will know you mean it.

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  16. kindacurious2 - 46-50 years old - female

    Reply by kindacurious2 Jan 27th, 2012 at 9:32PM

    idk....I guess rude just isn't my style....I expect ppl to understand when you tell them in plain english it is over

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