show him a motherly affection. and treat him as u r own son and softly change him<br />
don't be hurry. he will change <br />
god bless u............
you can't get someone to do anything that he wouldnt' do of his own volition.
If you really want something from someone you really love, you need to give away the very thing you want to that person and be patient......good things will always come to those who wait but you have to put in as well...<br />
Take really good care of him...do things for him that you would not normally do...(this is not about buying him gifts an things, its about giving of yourself) compliment him on the good things he does...say something nice about him - one thing every day...look for these nice things, they are there and you will surprise yourself about the things you will find...<br />
The benefits of doing this are many and far reaching....<br />
1. You will immediately start to feel better about yourself....you will feel you are giving and contributing not just to him but to your whole family and beyond ...<br />
2. Your energy levels will rise change inside and it will become visible to others outside of yourself and they will begin to comment about how you have changed...<br />
3. Your husband will be affected and after a while will not be able to withstand reciprocating and reacting to to you and your family in a positive way....he will be suspicious of your motives to start with and may even be unresponsive critical dismissive and and could even be belligerent even if he is full of anger.......but ignore all that...rise above that and keep doing it every day...every day...hold tight to the positive...it is healing so allow your husband that time to adjust.....be strong...<br />
4. Happiness, cooperation, increased love care kindness inner peace and understanding are the long term benefits of doing this....<br />
Do this and it will become a habit and you will find yourself doing it with your children, family, friends and everybody around you and your joy and happiness will know no bounds...it wont mean that you will be so happy the guys in white coats will come to take you away to live in la la land...<br />
You will learn so much about yourself and others around you...it will make you deal with unresolved issues you have avoided in the past to stop you own personal growth happiness peace and evolvement...as you deal with these issues you will feel stronger inside... more capable and confident...and your relationships will flourish as a result...<br />
This is a good recipe for staying married...and much much cheaper and less less painful than divorce...!<br />
Get a new husband. If he doesn't feel you are important enough to take care of, he won't. I had to learn that the hard way, funny enough he took care of another woman who had children from another man but couldn't take care of his own. Some people just have their priorities screwed up because their perception is jacked.