Everyone goes through stages when they get their heart broken, not unlike the stages of grief. (Shock, depression, anger, etc.) All of these stages are necessary, even though they can be very painful. Take the experience and learn from it. Just know that it WILL get better, and you WILL find someone better.

My best friend said this to me, "I can take what those guys did to me and become a bitter person, but then they've won, because they've ruined me. Or, I can take what they did to me, and learn from it, and not let it destroy me."

Just keep saying to yourself, "It's HIS loss, not mine."

Easy, you find some really great guy and you get him to fall in love with you. He will tell you how wonderful and beautiful you are and help to build you up and place you on a pedistal. Then, when you are feeling strong, you will have many other new and better guys chasing after you, so you can just go ahead and crush the heart of that first guy which will give you the unltimate sense of power and confidence.

This is what every woman I have ever known has done to me.. And it always seems to work very well for them... Of course this solution only works temporarily, because the new guy will just use you for the same purpose. But... Okay... forget I said anyting. That is jut plain bad advice...

Here is a better idea, try to find some perspective and balance in your thinking. You are a very attractive young woman, I will give you the beneifit of the doubt and say you are probably intelligent and caring. Just try to find the humor in your situation... trust me, it is always in there somewhere... A good sense of humor can get you through anything... and if that does not work you can go back to plan A.

There is an old saying I like.
If you love something, let it go.
If it comes back then it's yours.
If it doesn't hunt it down and bludgeon it to death.

Face to the broken heart. No one of us hasn't faced any sorrows. We need to stand up and go ,lady. You still have " youth" and a lot of thing in front of waiting for you. I know your sorrow now is not the biggest one and mine is too. One month, 3 months you will be back.
Taking part in some activities, concentrating on something you are interested in, going out with your friend,...I like walking when I have sad stories or for thinking. I like walking at night and alone...
Contacting with your friends, meeting people will help you to get back the confidence...

To start building back your self-esteem after a terrible break-up, the first thing that you need to start doing, is to start loving yourself more. Pamper yourself each day because you deserve it. Go to the salon, get a new hair cut. Be risky, by trying a hairstyle that you never knew you would try. Get your feet pedicured, and nails manicured. Once you start taking care of your outer-appearance, you will start feeling more confident.

SLOWLY. I SPEAK FROM EXPERIENCE. ONE THING I DID IS WRITE DOWN 62 THINGS THAT WERE GREAT ABOUT ME. YOU HAVE TO APPRECIATE AND LOVE YOURSELF FIRST. THE BROKEN HEART HEALING PROCESS IS LONG AND PAINFUL. TIME DOES HEAL ALL WOUNDS. I AM STILL GETTING OVER SOMEONE BUT I FEEL A LOT BETTER THAN I DID BEFORE. OH, WRITING YOUR FEELINGS IN A JOURNAL CAN ALSO HELP. AFTER A WEEK OR TWO READ OVER THE ENTRIES. THE PROGRESS YOU'VE MADE WILL BECOME APPARENT. ALSO, IF YOU HAVE FRIENDS/FAMILY/HOBBIES THAT HELPS. EVERY TIME YOU THINK OF THIS PERSON THINK OF SOMETHING ELSE. GOOD LUCK TO YOU AND BE CAUTIOUS BEFORE YOU GIVE YOUR HEART AWAY AGAIN. I'M SURE YOU, LIKE ME, DON'T WANT TO HAVE TO GO THROUGH THIS PAINFUL PROCESS AGAIN.

you're a cute girl, men will come flocking to you based on that alone - once you figure that out, your confidence should skyrocket again

If it were me I'd find myself someone new warn them your on the rebound and enjoy yourself

Join roller derby!

Kick ***, look cute, get in shape, meet new people, acquire new skills, and impress the hell out of any new boys you may meet! Worked for me...

i think workd did not end over here.. and thats life.. ane very thing did not happen in our life according to our wishes and we should adjust and try to live these kinds of things .. with broken hearts and wounded knees.. this is a learning opportunity so learn how to live happy in such kind of conditions and forget these incidents of life and do not stop just walk on road with full life with happiness. tommarow is urs and be brave .. rite.

Regards

maybe jumping into another relationship right away is not a good idea - leaving yourself vulnerable and willing to settle just to fill the void.

BUT maybe taking up a new extra curricular activity where you learn something new and meet new people would be a great way to a) build up your confidence b) occupy your time to help getting over the broken heart

maybe something like latin dancing, or an intramural sport

know there is life after death!

How I regained my confidence was simple. After years of thinking who would find me attractive? I launched out. I found an old boyfriend who happens to be single and who also happens to find me totally hot. Let me put it this way we heated up the bed sheets. I got my confidence back and now I have the I still got it attitude.

I wish i only knew. I am experiencing my heart being broken after a four year relationship. I was with an alcoholic stood beside him threw all of his slips,car accidents,rehab depression. I always felt like i was second best. I found on his computer ***** pictures and I got real mad. He packed up his stuff and I also found money that he was hiding. So i took it. I needed it for my mortage. Now i find out that he is getting an extra 13.00.00 a month plus 700.00. He came back in my life in Jan. 08 and within a month had a car wreck got a Dui. Of course I was the enabler. He never was happy with my child, he was jealous. He complained about my cats. Then there was this other side to him that I fell deeply for. It was a beautiful side.
The last two days he got drunk and it ended in abuse. Jail for him for 10 days but of course it was my fault. He went back to Washington State. He left a few times before but this time he wanted out.
I am sad,missing him, angry feel betrayed.
Oh he has only been gone about three weeks and he is on about four internet sites trying to pick up woman.
My heart is broken. I want to heal now. I believe in God and I just dont know how he gets away with hurting me or his other girlfriend in the past. He is like snow falling but once he gets into your heart. Its like you been it by a tornado. I just am having trouble focusing and living. I am very depressed. He is looking for an apartment going to school and basically just living his life. Like I never existed. I feel so desparte.

You do it one day at a time and each day gets easier and easier, especially i there is no contact with other person.

When you find yourself thinking about him think only of his bad points. Even make a list of everthing he did and said that annoyed you to remind yourself what he was really like. I finally ask yourself is he worthy of you. Someone will be but it isnt him, there is someone better there for you. Just make sure you look and feel your best because you never know when you may meet him.

Get to know and love yourself, and look at time as a reprieve. and above all, don't be afraid to open up your heart

Thats a tough question. I think the best way is to take care of yourself physically and emotionally by eating right, exercising and keeping positive thoughts. Surround yourself by those who love you and keep busy. Dive into a new hobby, educate yourself on an interesting topic, get in touch with old friends, or dive into your job. But also give yourself time to grieve. Don't stuff the feelings...just cry when the feeling arises. Time will lessen the pain.

It's just like they say, get back on the horse and ride. Don't let one person controll your fate. You have the ability to love many different people and the next one is out there. Go find him!

IF U KNOW THAAT IS A FOR SURE THING ITS OVER, THEN YOU NEED TO REALIZE THAT U R A GOOD PERSON HAT IS IF U R LOL, THAT U R YOUNG ADN HAVE MANY TIMES MORE TO GET IT RIGHT, DONT WALLER OVER IT AT ALL AS HARD AS IT MIGHT B 4 U DONT . I AM GOING THRU DIVORCE RIGHT NOW AND I HAV ENOT ONCE CRYED OVER IT 7 YEAR MARRAIGE AND OUT OF BLUE HE ASKED 4 DIVORCE LEFT ME DISABLED BY US TREASURY DISABILIY AND ICANT EVEN MAKE IT ALONE FINACIALLYOR PYSSICALLY AND I AM JUST GONG DAY BY DAY, I THINK I CAN GET A ETTER PERSON EVEN THOUGH HE REATEDME LIKE A PRINCES FOR ALL 7 YRS AND I LOVE DHIM DEARLY I HAAVE NEW PROSPECTIVE ON HOW HE LEFT ME THAT WAS BOUG SO I AM JUST GONG ON AND I AM NOT SULKING, CRYING, I TELL MYSELF THAT I AM A GOOD PEROSN AND I CAN GET OUT AND FIND A PEROSN NOT REAL SOON NOW BUT U CAN MAKE IT U WILL SURVIVE AND MAYBE IT IWLL BE A UCH BETER ROMANCE AT THAT WHEN U DO FIND IT, ENJOY WHAT U HAD WHEN U AHD IT DONT HATE HIM CALL HIM NAMES , THAT ONLY AMKES IT HARDER ON U TO GET OVER IT, BUT U R A BLESSED PERSON AND PROBABLY CAN GET ANYONE U WANT U SONT WANT HIM AFTER WHAT HE HAS DONE AND IF YR CLOSE DONT LET HIM WITH ANOTHER GIRL BOTHER U THERE IS NOTHING U CAN DO ABOUT IT SO LET IT GO