Put it in writing. You did so quite splendidly in your desc<x>ription above So do it again, only give it to him personally in writing. A concrete action somehow helps to make the concept more concrete.
I know what you are going through in reverse though. My best answer to you is thank him and talk to him if you can. If you really cannt do it with a thank you card. He will read it and will be able to read it again. Then maybe it might sink in. My prayers are with you. Good luck
You are so very right. Having friends are part of sharing , and no friends you are alone an often sad.
Its the difference between men and women. For women emotional part is more important. Guys don't really get it. If they're faced with a problem or see someone they care about suffer, they want to do something to help. Sitting around and just being there in their eyes equals to doing nothing.<br />
If he reads all this, it will be good. He has to understand that difference exists and for a woman just being there sometimes means so much more than someone would be running around trying to do something.<br />
Maybe give him a book to read called "Men are from Mars, Women are from Venus". Its a curious read.
Write him a letter about how you feel. Some people don't like taking credit for being helpful. They believe it is just the right thing to do so they shouldn't be overly acknowledged for it. My hubby is that way and times I don't get it either. They can also get embarrassed when complimented.
Be there for him, the same way he is there for you.
Tell him by name from your name. Geez!!!
Look him directly in the eyes, say, "Thank you for caring and being here for me." Then hug him. That should help.
Try all of the above advice, and add to it a concrete manifestation of your gratitude and affection... Does he love homemade cookies? Make him a batch of his favorite. He works long hours, and hasn't had a chance to run a certain errand? Run it for him... Or make him a home cooked meal... For most men actions speak much louder than words. They show their love by doing things for us (even if it isn't something we wanted :P), so the best way to show them appreciation is the same way. If you are sick, or disabled, and can't do any of the things I mentioned, wrack your brain and see if you can find something you can do that he would appreciate... Give it a shot, and let us know how it goes!!!
Get him a gift and keep reassuring him.