In your mind, You need to dismiss his comments and you also need to look up affirmations and return to these during the day.....Good Luck, your Dad might grow up someday.
If you choose to believe it,it eventually affects you
you have to think more of yourself
Tell him "thank God I'm adopted"
have childhood protective services remove all of you from that toxic environment
Give him a book on abuse- abuse is not only physical, it can be mental and financial, words can hurt more than punches. Tell him that you learned that his saying that is abusive behaviour and an abusive person is not the type of sucess you would hope to attain and he should set a better example. Ask if his father treated him like that- sometimes people learn bad behaviour from what was done to them- tell him it's never to late to learn or change and you hope that he does before it's too late.
Just look at him dead in the eyes and say God Bless you dad have a great day and just walk away....try it :)
Then just say dad I love you and walk away....make him think about that one yea the word LOVE and what it really means is ...hugs*
My grandfather is the same way, he lives with us and is constantly berating my brother and I for being "failures." On a funnier note, he calls us "turd 1" and "turd 2", because we're "pieces of ****" I work as an EMT and my brother is in college on a scholarship, so I don't understand what his issue is. In the end, I just realize that his opinion is not the truth and couldn't matter less. I hope everything works out for you, I had problems with my father as well, but he's not in the house anymore; you'll work it out.
I'm glad you're feeling some relief! These answers have made me feel a little better too, we're not alone.