Being someone's dad is more important than being someone's bf, that should be his focus because who that child becomes is influenced by THIER parent/child relationship as well as the relationship between the parents. He helped to create the situation, he should be the one to help resolve it. Good luck, you have a difficult row to hoe.
No, I am saying that when you have a child that being a parent changes your priorities. My relationship with my husband comes first because that is necessary to raise our children with love and respect. Because your boyfriend is not with his child's mom his relationship with his child is separate than his relationship with you. His daughter is a CHILD and you, I hope, are an adult. You can take care of yourself, she can not. If he is not man enough to take care of his children he's no man at all. And yes, working out a good relationship with the baby mama is part of being a man. And I hope if you have kids you have them with a guy who'll be there for you and your children. What have I said that is wrong? Or is it that I didn't say you should come first? Oh, we'll, I wasn't mean, just telling you that a child's needs are more important than yours.
Then you will probably be a good mom when the time comes :-) Unfortunately, the girls mom is making things tough and that's just the way it is for you right now. I am sorry for that. For you and for the girl. Really, he is going to have to step up and direct this one, its his job as a dad and as your bf. And I really do mean good luck with no sarcasm at all. It's just a tough situation for everyone it sounds like. ~Peace
tell him to spend more time with his daughter........that's how it should be