You've left yourself powerless in your relationship. That never ends well
It sounds to me like he doesn't call you some nights because he wants you to call him - and he wants some time with his friends because he feels like he's putting in all the effort.
If you don't call him to go out he may think you're not interested in the relationship and leave. That's just my humble opinion though.
did we read the same post? He has ALL the power in the relationship and she gave it to him.
Everyone has a different opinion.
You need to have things that fulfill you that don't involve him, if you wanna hang with him ask the worst he can say is no.