You could fill a water balloon with vinegar and the next time he goes into your yard peg him with it. You could also take some of his toys and see how he likes it. Or my personal favorite, arm your kids with hot sauce in water guns.
Note: Some of these may constitute assault or theft.
Discuss it with the parents and their kids along with yours. If nothing is done make it clear that you don't want the neighbors children in or around your yard or playing with your children what so ever and if that doesn't help then a more legal authority should be contacted.
Welcome to the world of parenthood where caring is not a mutual thing. You need to be selfish with those kids that belong to parents who don't care, they will ruin the time you have with your own kids. believe me mine have grown up all too quickly and many times occasions were spoilt by other peoples kids intruding on our time or being allowed to do anything they like without any repercussions.
It's always difficult but as old as I am I was always told to play with kids my own age, maybe you could tactfully suggest to his parents that he is " a bit too much" for your own children. The other thing I'd say is what the hell are any parents doing letting a 2 year old out without their supervision? totally irresponsible in my view.
Pardon me for digging on this one and please understand that this is not an attack but im gonna just freestyle on this one so pardon the incoherence.
But who is actually watching these children? You do not " catch" children if you do watch them there will be nothing to watch. Where are they playing? Just out there in the yard like that? If so thank the 11 year old for the free babysitting provided. Jesus sake they are kids !! Let them play whats the big deal about the 11 year old? Chrissake you can show him love and kindness for starters then maybe he will learn to take emotional cues from you and leave when u say bye. Clearly he loves kids. he will be a teenager when ur kids r his age. they might need to be babysat , they will probably look up to this kid. or you can keep it up,, watch what happens when hes a teen.
If you were watching them you wouldnt catch the boy in your yard. You would meet him at the gate and turn him away. Its clear that you want to keep your children isolated from other children , thats what you shold have said in the first place instead of making the boy into the problem. You are one of those parents that dont watch their children and then get mad when things happen.
I'd definatly be reporting the parents 2 the authorities 4 not supervising their kids and not controlling them.
would it not be simpler to just buy a swing for the older one to play on
think of it this way for the price of buying a few extra toys for the older to play with
you get a free babysitter that will help you watch the younger and you keep piece and good relations with your neighbors...
has he ever been hateful towards your children without reason ?
You have two options. One: Deal with his parents and confront them politely but formly over you concerns including the replacement cost of anything he breaks or takes.
Two: Consider upgrading your stuff to accomodate this older kid if he is acting as babysitter and role model for your child.
A spanking is in order!
Get either a big,black leather belt, a broom, or a cattle prod!
I had 5 of my own,, and, while I was a parade leader most of the time, I got 'Hitlarian' at the proper time, too!
LOL I totally understand!