How do I help my kids let go?
My children are enduring their parents being divorced. While we do our best to make the environment kind and healthy, it still takes a toll on the kids. Recently I mentioned packing some toys to take to the goodwill and my kids started freaking out. Two of them started crying. This has NEVER been an issue before the divorce. We took toys and other things to the goodwill regularly. I'm thinking they are growing attached to "things" to create a stability around them. I'm concerned about this and unsure how to deal with it. On one hand I want to help them be strong and let go. But on the other, I feel like I should not interrupt their efforts to stabilize their own emotions. Any suggestions?
8 Answers to "How do I help my kids let go?"
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I'm sure that when we were younger we all had a comfort blanket or special teddy. It's perfectly natural to put emotions into things when we're going through a hard time. Your children will let go when they're ready, don't rush it!
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when people you love start walking living in different directions for reasons your too young to understand your toys become your support. it take along time to get over this stuff ,depending on the situation. my mother and father hated each other so i destroyed my toys as a way to take my anger out on them, different lids do different things. best you can do is comfort them and reassure them as much as you can
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I would give them a little time and see if it gets better if not then maybe see a counselor
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You have to keep business as usual. If you give in to their want to hold onto things, then they will only have a harder time in life when they grow older. They have to learn that the world is not fair, and the sooner the better.
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hit their fingers with a ruler.
no, I didn't read that big huge paragraph, and I'm not going to. but this answer works for the titletext alone.Like (1)
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I agree with jtsather... Teach them the world is not fair, an if they throw a fit, beat them to a bloody pulp, because the world isn't fair, and they should learn that right now.
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if you think thats funny your sick! being in that situation is bloody stressful
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I was being sarcastic. ...
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I don't think you should think of it as dealing with it. I think you should see what happens and respond how you'd like to be responded to.
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Posted by SeductiveLiar Mar 9th, 2013 at 3:28AM
My parents split when i was 11 so i understand the urge to keep things the same, perhaps letting them have some control over something they can is a good thing. They have no power at all over the fact their family is broken, let them hold onto toys, what harm could it do?
If not perhaps say you need to make some room, when they can you need 2 or 3 things in a box, put the box out, label it and let them decide what and when things go into it?
Dont forget to give them lots of hugs, be there as much as you can and put them first no matter how important work might be (pojecting, me?? never!)
I hope this helps x good luck x
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