How do I help save a friend from wanting to end his life? I don't know what else to do... T^T

There's very little we can do for people like this. My sister has BPD (Borderline Personality Disorder) and has attempted suicide on several occasions in the last few years. Our family is very close and we are offering all the support we can, but it's the professionals who may be able to make things click for them.

I've been to counselling and when no one else could make things better, the counsellor did. He asked the right questions and encouraged a particular type of behavior and my anger subsided. I still get angry, but I haven't punched a brick wall in over 12 years:)

Get them help, support them and hope they make the right decision. That's all we can do.

All the best to you and your friend

So all first at hand resources, mental health, police, are totally out of the question. The second at hand resource, you going to him, is also not feasible, right?

The only two options I see are, if there is a shred friend over there, get him/her involved. This might be tricky, read on.

The other option is you get him to spend as much time with you, long distance, as the both of you can take. That might be troublesome by the way. Schedule time with him, try to get him to agree, every time again, that he will not harm himself until the next time you speak to him. If he agrees to that, the chances that he will commit suicide are going down. If he doesn't, or can't agree to that, you have a huge problem.

There is third option, let him come to you.

Now I know, and understand, you do not want to lose a dear friend. You are trying to get him to get out of suicide mode. Now, apart from your fears and wants, do you think he will like that? I am asking, because in one of my suicidal periods, friends really did got out of their way, to prevent me from committing suicide. They succeeded, obviously, but I'm still not really happy that they succeeded. They also turned their backs on me, and at least one the friends was really concerned and really close. Bad example I know, but it is a reality and it would be unfair for me not to tell.

If he is really determined, you can't prevent it, you can only hope that he either 'snaps out of it', or tries and fails.

I applaud you for caring so much, it really moves me. And I do hope it works out well, but also be prepared it might not work out well. Don't fall into the guilt trap.

Hugs to you.

Take him for a ride then stop at the emergency room. Convince him that it is for his own good, because you fear for him and you don't want to lose him. If he refuses, which he probably will, make him promise to get some help, then accompany him there for support.

uh call the police