can you do me a favor? you don't have to tell her but can you tell her you need a counselor? i did the same thing at 14. so i asked my parents for a counselor and told her instead and she helpoed me tell my parents. its really importantb honey. you may not love yourself right now but do it for the love of your mother.
My mom found out and she sat down and talked to me and I promised I would stop, then one day u was called a ***** by a lot of people and I tried to commit suicide I took 28 pain killers and then I nothing happened so k cut my wrist and then I passed out non the floor my mom came in and called the ambulance I went to the hospital got stitches and then got my stomach pumped and I had to stay at a teen suicide facility for a week and now I'm in counseling and I take anti depressants. You should try talking to someone I'm always here so you can talk to me and trust me there is nothing wrong with not being okay.
The thing is.. I was a cutter and currently still am. Wanna know the reason I stopped..? Well the thing is I have a daughter basically. My sweet baby. And she's 6. She read me and her other Mommas messages(I'm no lesbo were not dating) and she saw u I cut. And make me promise not to cut. She told me it hurts her more than it hurts me when I do it. And now I'm going to try to stop becuz I figured out whenever I cut she feels the pain. 2 nights ago she woke up at 4am at where she is (three states away) and was a screaming and crying mommy mommy mommy mommy hurting!!!! She could feel I was cutting myself. She feels when my cuts hurts. Sounds impossible but it's not. But my pound is u have to find that someone that u know if u cut it will kill them. Absolutely kill them inside. I know your not the happiest right now trust me neither am I but first u need to help yourself and stop cutting. When you stop cutting u need to stop cutting for yourself. Because YOU want to stop. Not anyone else. Just you. U have to want to stop cutting. If u don't do it for you then you won't be able to stop. So do it for you and another person. Maybe it's your mom,girlfriend,best friend. If u talk to me about it I can try to help. But honestly if u really ever need someone I am always on. *Hugs*
I'm 22; I haven't cut myself in about four years. I started when I was around 13. I still have scars; it sucks having to take them into consideration now, but that's life.
Most people tend to outgrow the urge to self-injure a few years after they begin, so I've read. Depending on what's going on in your life, the desire to harm yourself could be coming from a perfectly reasonable place. If suicide isn't your goal, you're probably just enjoying the endorphin release created by the physical pain. It blocks out mental noise quite effectively.
If you were older, I might recommend smoking a joint. But you're young, so tell your mom. Or a teacher. Or a counselor. Try not to let them totally pathologize you. You're probably not as nuts as you or anyone else thinks you are; you're likely on the path to a perfectly normal adulthood.
Just hold on. It WILL get better.
Cutting is a lot easier on your body than drinking. My mom died of liver disease. Her arms were beautiful, but her innards were completely wrecked.
Congrats on kicking the habit! You'll love yourself for it later. <3
I'm lucky enough to be working in social services. I think my scars are helpful in the sense that they break down barriers between me and the people I'm talking to; they make me more accessible to people with emotional problems because they can see I've had them, too.
That said... sometimes people can be cruel, and some situations aren't scar-friendly. Navigating those sucks!
Hey baby listen to me. You are not worth hear ding your self trust me I've been down this road and all they leave is ugly scars you are worth something and I promise you are, sometimes life gets really hard and you just wann a give up but trust me on give up T's not worth it. Stay strong beautiful <3
Your welcome baby ! Anytime you inbox me if you need anything
It's not easy to stop, believe me. But... it can be done. If you need to talk to someone, I'm here, too. You have to WANT to get better; it's hard. But it's worth it.
if that's how you feel about your mom, then why do you do it?
What about sports or music? Don't tell me there's no way you can do either. If you're wily or devious enough to wanna hide cutting from your mom you should be able to figure out a way to do more constructive things.
Give up doesn't always mean your weeks sometimes your just strong enough t let go
Then you need to let go of something. Yes you need to learn to handle stress but not by cutting.
Hey the same thing happened to me too. Same with The1ginger if you need to talk there are people here.
I think hiding them from your parents would hurt them more than knowing how much you need help right now.
Telling her you need help will give her more peace of mind than you trying to bear the burden alone.
Maybe you could ask your mom to visit a counselor. If its serious the counselor might let your parents know what your going through. If you just want to hid it Foundation helps... Hope you stop cutting soon.. xx
why doing it if it will kill your mom... if you really love your mom....
there are lot of ways to cope with things darling....
I was the same. I just started wearing long sleeve tops and pants ALL THE TIME. Yes, for years, 7yrs in fact. You need to find an excuse to wear them all the time tho (esp in HOT weather) I used to just make up that i hated sunlight on my skin (which wasnt so strange as i was going through a emo/goth phase) but over time you will find a reason to stop. good luck x
Thats ok.. i cant go on your profile or msg you.. but if you want to chat to me or need someone to talk to dont hesitate to msg me x
you need help..now. Your parents also need to know. Whatever the hurt they feel now won't be as bad as the pain of burying you in the future. This leads to other things.
you still need help..it's not a way to cope with the stress of life..and believe me..that stress gets worse as you get older. More responsibilites. Please seek help. You can learn new coping skills.
that my girl, is something i don't understand. Do you enjoy being "the victim" ?
sometimes we all have to do things we don't want to do..just to make our lives better. You'll need to be brave.
If u really DID love your mom ...u wouldn't b CUTTING
I don't care WHAT your reasoning is.... there's NO excuse for it, & I'm certainly NOT gonna help u cover it up so u can KEEP doing it
If you love her so much then why dont you talk to her so you can get help? You think her not knowing now will make her feel better when she finds out 5 or 10 years down the road and she feels guilty because she didn't see the signs and she didn't help you all those years?
U can't hide it FOREVER kid.. & your mom WILL find out.. EVENTUALLY, & then she'll b hurt even WORSE, without U doing a THING
Thanks RQCK, that was kind of my point. As a parent I was very upset when my daughter told me she was cutting but it gave a chance to talk about it and find out how to get her help before it went on for years. I wish you all the best Kitti.
You know, I agree with ThisSpaceForRent, I think that your mom SHOULD find out. Hiding them will only allow you to do it more and hide it for longer.
You know..there are more way to cope with pain than to do that.
hm..well it's not the best thing to do but use a rubber band. I know it's still self harm but at least you won't have massive cuts all over and for the record, you should probably seek a therapist. I'm not saying your sick in the head or anything, I'm just saying that at a time like this, if you're cutting and your mom is going through a lot, maybe family therapy or even just you. Just so you can go out and vent to someone without the worry of people rejecting you so much. This way, you can vent healthily with a lot of support and you can stop cutting as well as being strong for your mom. It's really not a bad thing, at all, cause honestly, scars stay with you for the rest of your life, whether you think so or not. Believe me. I made cuts on my hands in grade 9 and the scars are still there.
no, no, I understand. When I used to do it, I had to avoid everyone as well and well, any way I did, it would work for a bit but someone would always find out. There where things I couldn't do just to avoid anyone seeing it, like going swimming. I did get help and im a lot better now..you kinda just learn how to accept them after awhile but either way, it's not good if you do it a lot. It's only a temporary solution that turns into an addiction and that is the worst possible direction you can go in. It's better just to find help and the best thing about it is that your friends don't have to know if you don't want to tell them.
no problem. You could try the school councilors. they could probably help.
You're in good hands. Zapped is smarter then you may know :) Also koolranch is a douche, don't worry about him. Things will get better. :)
If you want to talk, I am here and I do not judge, I used to cut too
Umm no, that's not even close. when I cut , I felt alone and I needed someone to talk to (upon other stuff) talking is the best way to handle it.
Where are the cuts?? It depends on where they are to how you should I hide them!? But I do agree, and strongly suggest you to stop self-harming please.
Mostly will power, and I got on here, and talk to people about it. Which in real life would be hard because I am a mute. Opening up to some makes alot of differance. I also used to cut to calm down but now I draw or write it down. I also moved in with my dad, because my mom was a big part of my cutting.
Well it was your generation who raised us... I also did, I draw now.
Sorry one more comment, cutting can become an addiction, like drinking and smoking. Its away to get a released. In to be honest just like any addiction it is hard to get rid of. But it has to be done, with LOVE not hate
Koolranch, stop being a troll
I'm going to be completely honest. I cut in 5th grade yeah I know young. Then I stopped bc my mom found out. Then I started again bc I found out he watched **** & I loveher so much. I never told mom she just found out. So yeah, I'm cutting again. I don't do it on my wrist–to obvious. I do it high on my stomach and high on my thigh–so I can wear shorts in the summer. The best advice I can give you is DO NOT tell your mom she will feel she is a bad mother. Get some neosporin or healing ointment and apply that twice a day or according to directions. Tell a friend they can help, someone who won't tell. Or get a diary and pour your feelings out