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17 Answers to "How do i hide my cuts from my parents? im 14 and need help. it would kill my mom inside if she found out and i love her."

  1. pinkmonroe - 31-35 years old - female

    Posted by pinkmonroe Jan 4th, 2013 at 12:48AM

    can you do me a favor? you don't have to tell her but can you tell her you need a counselor? i did the same thing at 14. so i asked my parents for a counselor and told her instead and she helpoed me tell my parents. its really importantb honey. you may not love yourself right now but do it for the love of your mother.

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  2. kittikatti - 13-15 years old - female

    Reply by kittikatti Jan 4th, 2013 at 12:55AM

    did your parents find out why u saw the counselor? like did he/she tell them?

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  3. lizziebobizzielovesyou - 16-17 years old - female

    Reply by lizziebobizzielovesyou Jan 4th, 2013 at 1:07AM

    My mom found out and she sat down and talked to me and I promised I would stop, then one day u was called a ***** by a lot of people and I tried to commit suicide I took 28 pain killers and then I nothing happened so k cut my wrist and then I passed out non the floor my mom came in and called the ambulance I went to the hospital got stitches and then got my stomach pumped and I had to stay at a teen suicide facility for a week and now I'm in counseling and I take anti depressants. You should try talking to someone I'm always here so you can talk to me and trust me there is nothing wrong with not being okay.

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  4. GuardianAngel9400 - 13-15 years old - female

    Posted by GuardianAngel9400 Jan 4th, 2013 at 10:10AM

    The thing is.. I was a cutter and currently still am. Wanna know the reason I stopped..? Well the thing is I have a daughter basically. My sweet baby. And she's 6. She read me and her other Mommas messages(I'm no lesbo were not dating) and she saw u I cut. And make me promise not to cut. She told me it hurts her more than it hurts me when I do it. And now I'm going to try to stop becuz I figured out whenever I cut she feels the pain. 2 nights ago she woke up at 4am at where she is (three states away) and was a screaming and crying mommy mommy mommy mommy hurting!!!! She could feel I was cutting myself. She feels when my cuts hurts. Sounds impossible but it's not. But my pound is u have to find that someone that u know if u cut it will kill them. Absolutely kill them inside. I know your not the happiest right now trust me neither am I but first u need to help yourself and stop cutting. When you stop cutting u need to stop cutting for yourself. Because YOU want to stop. Not anyone else. Just you. U have to want to stop cutting. If u don't do it for you then you won't be able to stop. So do it for you and another person. Maybe it's your mom,girlfriend,best friend. If u talk to me about it I can try to help. But honestly if u really ever need someone I am always on. *Hugs*

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  5. kittikatti - 13-15 years old - female

    Reply by kittikatti Jan 4th, 2013 at 1:54PM

    thank you so much<3

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  6. undercoversister - 22-25 years old

    Posted by undercoversister Jan 4th, 2013 at 1:28AM

    I'm 22; I haven't cut myself in about four years. I started when I was around 13. I still have scars; it sucks having to take them into consideration now, but that's life.

    Most people tend to outgrow the urge to self-injure a few years after they begin, so I've read. Depending on what's going on in your life, the desire to harm yourself could be coming from a perfectly reasonable place. If suicide isn't your goal, you're probably just enjoying the endorphin release created by the physical pain. It blocks out mental noise quite effectively.

    If you were older, I might recommend smoking a joint. But you're young, so tell your mom. Or a teacher. Or a counselor. Try not to let them totally pathologize you. You're probably not as nuts as you or anyone else thinks you are; you're likely on the path to a perfectly normal adulthood.

    Just hold on. It WILL get better.

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  7. kittikatti - 13-15 years old - female

    Reply by kittikatti Jan 4th, 2013 at 1:36AM

    i used to drink instead of cut but i recently quit. thanks, that was helpful to hear:)

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  8. undercoversister - 22-25 years old

    Reply by undercoversister Jan 4th, 2013 at 1:38AM

    Cutting is a lot easier on your body than drinking. My mom died of liver disease. Her arms were beautiful, but her innards were completely wrecked. Congrats on kicking the habit! You'll love yourself for it later. <3

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  9. lizziebobizzielovesyou - 16-17 years old - female

    Posted by lizziebobizzielovesyou Jan 4th, 2013 at 12:51AM

    Hey baby listen to me. You are not worth hear ding your self trust me I've been down this road and all they leave is ugly scars you are worth something and I promise you are, sometimes life gets really hard and you just wann a give up but trust me on give up T's not worth it. Stay strong beautiful <3

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  10. kittikatti - 13-15 years old - female

    Reply by kittikatti Jan 4th, 2013 at 1:01AM

    thank you<3

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  11. lizziebobizzielovesyou - 16-17 years old - female

    Reply by lizziebobizzielovesyou Jan 4th, 2013 at 1:12AM

    Your welcome baby ! Anytime you inbox me if you need anything

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  12. MalibuBarbie10 - 22-25 years old - female

    Posted by MalibuBarbie10 Jan 4th, 2013 at 12:48AM

    It's not easy to stop, believe me. But... it can be done. If you need to talk to someone, I'm here, too. You have to WANT to get better; it's hard. But it's worth it.

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  13. kittikatti - 13-15 years old - female

    Reply by kittikatti Jan 4th, 2013 at 12:56AM

    i do want to. i hate having to do this to myself, but every time i try to stop it gets worse. can you stop without help from family or friends?

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  14. bohaven - 46-50 years old - male

    Posted by bohaven Jan 4th, 2013 at 12:48AM

    Please stop doing that.I am not judging.I worked as security in a place that held people who couldnt stop doing that.Please get some help?

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  15. kittikatti - 13-15 years old - female

    Reply by kittikatti Jan 4th, 2013 at 12:54AM

    im trying to, but in the mean time i need to hide it. ive been thinking of seeing my counciler but im scared she will tell my mom

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  16. bohaven - 46-50 years old - male

    Reply by bohaven Jan 4th, 2013 at 12:58AM

    Young lady,cutting isnt the end,its a beginning. Get help.Today.I have seen the end game.I have had to make the call that no one wants to make.Today.Tell someone.

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  17. Indie42 - 46-50 years old - female

    Posted by Indie42 Jan 4th, 2013 at 12:46AM

    if that's how you feel about your mom, then why do you do it?

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  18. kittikatti - 13-15 years old - female

    Reply by kittikatti Jan 4th, 2013 at 12:52AM

    to cope with all the other **** in life that we all go through. im just not strong enough to go through it without something to help me, like selfharm

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  19. Indie42 - 46-50 years old - female

    Reply by Indie42 Jan 4th, 2013 at 1:07AM

    What about sports or music? Don't tell me there's no way you can do either. If you're wily or devious enough to wanna hide cutting from your mom you should be able to figure out a way to do more constructive things.

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  20. KayliWillKillTeeHee - 13-15 years old - female

    Posted by KayliWillKillTeeHee Jan 4th, 2013 at 12:46AM

    Hey the same thing happened to me too. Same with The1ginger if you need to talk there are people here.

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  21. kittikatti - 13-15 years old - female

    Reply by kittikatti Jan 4th, 2013 at 12:53AM

    thanks.. i really appreciate it..did you stop?

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  22. scatterheart - 13-15 years old - female

    Posted by scatterheart Jan 4th, 2013 at 12:46AM

    I think hiding them from your parents would hurt them more than knowing how much you need help right now.

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  23. kittikatti - 13-15 years old - female

    Reply by kittikatti Jan 4th, 2013 at 12:50AM

    i just dont want to hurt my mom by telling her i need help

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  24. scatterheart - 13-15 years old - female

    Reply by scatterheart Jan 4th, 2013 at 12:51AM

    Telling her you need help will give her more peace of mind than you trying to bear the burden alone.

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  25. denis3BW - 26-30 years old - female

    Posted by denis3BW Jan 4th, 2013 at 1:26AM

    why doing it if it will kill your mom... if you really love your mom....

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  26. kittikatti - 13-15 years old - female

    Reply by kittikatti Jan 4th, 2013 at 1:36AM

    to cope with everything else

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  27. denis3BW - 26-30 years old - female

    Reply by denis3BW Jan 4th, 2013 at 2:45AM

    there are lot of ways to cope with things darling....

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  28. Velvetkitty - 18-21 years old - female

    Posted by Velvetkitty Jan 4th, 2013 at 1:21AM

    I was the same. I just started wearing long sleeve tops and pants ALL THE TIME. Yes, for years, 7yrs in fact. You need to find an excuse to wear them all the time tho (esp in HOT weather) I used to just make up that i hated sunlight on my skin (which wasnt so strange as i was going through a emo/goth phase) but over time you will find a reason to stop. good luck x

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  29. kittikatti - 13-15 years old - female

    Reply by kittikatti Jan 4th, 2013 at 1:37AM

    thats a really good idea, thanks, i burn easily so i can use that. thanks!

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  30. Velvetkitty - 18-21 years old - female

    Reply by Velvetkitty Jan 4th, 2013 at 2:51AM

    Thats ok.. i cant go on your profile or msg you.. but if you want to chat to me or need someone to talk to dont hesitate to msg me x

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  31. Tgilly - 51-55 years old - female

    Posted by Tgilly Jan 4th, 2013 at 1:10AM

    you need help..now. Your parents also need to know. Whatever the hurt they feel now won't be as bad as the pain of burying you in the future. This leads to other things.

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  32. kittikatti - 13-15 years old - female

    Reply by kittikatti Jan 4th, 2013 at 1:17AM

    I know it tends to lead to that but in my case i sincerly dont think it will. i attempted suicide before and ive since then come to realize all the things i have to live for and i never will try that kind of thing again. in fact when i feel suicidal, i cut and the feeling goes away

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  33. Tgilly - 51-55 years old - female

    Reply by Tgilly Jan 4th, 2013 at 1:39AM

    you still need help..it's not a way to cope with the stress of life..and believe me..that stress gets worse as you get older. More responsibilites. Please seek help. You can learn new coping skills.

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  34. TheRQCKSTARZz0ne - 41-45 years old - male

    Posted by TheRQCKSTARZz0ne Jan 4th, 2013 at 12:46AM

    If u really DID love your mom ...u wouldn't b CUTTING

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  35. kittikatti - 13-15 years old - female

    Reply by kittikatti Jan 4th, 2013 at 12:53AM

    i cut to cope with other things. and its kinda a cycle because i also cut because i feel bad that i cut

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  36. TheRQCKSTARZz0ne - 41-45 years old - male

    Reply by TheRQCKSTARZz0ne Jan 4th, 2013 at 1:04AM

    I don't care WHAT your reasoning is.... there's NO excuse for it, & I'm certainly NOT gonna help u cover it up so u can KEEP doing it

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  37. SimplyGlorious - 41-45 years old - female

    Posted by SimplyGlorious Jan 4th, 2013 at 12:46AM

    If you love her so much then why dont you talk to her so you can get help? You think her not knowing now will make her feel better when she finds out 5 or 10 years down the road and she feels guilty because she didn't see the signs and she didn't help you all those years?

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  38. kittikatti - 13-15 years old - female

    Reply by kittikatti Jan 4th, 2013 at 12:51AM

    because i dont want to hurt her in the first place. and i dont plan on telling her in 5-10 years

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  39. TheRQCKSTARZz0ne - 41-45 years old - male

    Reply by TheRQCKSTARZz0ne Jan 4th, 2013 at 1:09AM

    U can't hide it FOREVER kid.. & your mom WILL find out.. EVENTUALLY, & then she'll b hurt even WORSE, without U doing a THING

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  40. Lillyofthevaliant - 22-25 years old - female

    Posted by Lillyofthevaliant Jan 4th, 2013 at 12:46AM

    Where are they?

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  41. kittikatti - 13-15 years old - female

    Reply by kittikatti Jan 4th, 2013 at 12:50AM

    arms and legs

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  42. Lillyofthevaliant - 22-25 years old - female

    Reply by Lillyofthevaliant Jan 4th, 2013 at 1:02AM

    Wear pants, long sleeves, and if you have them lots of bracelets are good if you have lots of cuts on your wrists.. jelly bracelets are the best at covering those. But remember there's always a chance she may notice or if you're in school and a teacher sees you wont like the reaction. I started cutting at 17 and I hope that you can find a way to stop because it hurts not only you but the people that love and care about you. If you ever need to talk about it feel free to message me.

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  43. ZappedToTheUnicorn - 22-25 years old - female

    Posted by ZappedToTheUnicorn Jan 4th, 2013 at 12:45AM

    You know, I agree with ThisSpaceForRent, I think that your mom SHOULD find out. Hiding them will only allow you to do it more and hide it for longer.

    You know..there are more way to cope with pain than to do that.

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  44. kittikatti - 13-15 years old - female

    Reply by kittikatti Jan 4th, 2013 at 12:48AM

    my mom has been through so much. i hold her when she cries, and my stepdad is deployed overseas right now, she needs my brother and i to be strong. im cutting less, which is a start, but quitting is really hard and overwhelming for me.

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  45. ZappedToTheUnicorn - 22-25 years old - female

    Reply by ZappedToTheUnicorn Jan 4th, 2013 at 12:52AM

    hm..well it's not the best thing to do but use a rubber band. I know it's still self harm but at least you won't have massive cuts all over and for the record, you should probably seek a therapist. I'm not saying your sick in the head or anything, I'm just saying that at a time like this, if you're cutting and your mom is going through a lot, maybe family therapy or even just you. Just so you can go out and vent to someone without the worry of people rejecting you so much. This way, you can vent healthily with a lot of support and you can stop cutting as well as being strong for your mom. It's really not a bad thing, at all, cause honestly, scars stay with you for the rest of your life, whether you think so or not. Believe me. I made cuts on my hands in grade 9 and the scars are still there.

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  46. The1ginger - 18-21 years old - female

    Posted by The1ginger Jan 4th, 2013 at 12:44AM

    If you want to talk, I am here and I do not judge, I used to cut too

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  47. The1ginger - 18-21 years old - female

    Reply by The1ginger Jan 4th, 2013 at 12:48AM

    Umm no, that's not even close. when I cut , I felt alone and I needed someone to talk to (upon other stuff) talking is the best way to handle it.

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  48. kittikatti - 13-15 years old - female

    Reply by kittikatti Jan 4th, 2013 at 12:48AM

    thanks<3 how did you stop?

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