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Our daughter just got engaged tonight to a nice young man who isn't "just like us". We have some concerns about the relationship, nothing terrible, just about maturity, finishing their education and his interest in the military. My husband says, "he isn't respectful". Sound like "My Big Fat Greek Wedding"!! They get to make their own choices now and we have to accept that. I love him but he is so stubborn and won't talk. I feel like I've been the buffer between him and the rest of both our families and children for the past 30 years. I'm tired of trying to protect everyone from his moodiness. I don't know what to do and can't see how to proceed. Why can't he just be happy? Does it always have to be such a struggle and so much work?

sounds like he thinks everyone can do better and not everyone is living up to their full potential, or his standards. They arent his choices to make. tell him that your daughter is entitled to living her life the way she thinks she wants to, she'll make her own mistakes and good choices, he can give his input on everything all he wants. he should realize its just his advise or opinion and his daughter and family needs to live for themselves not for others.