I don't think men find independent women intimidating. I think they have more liking for strong females. Perhaps it's the way you come off? Or the type of guys you date? I'm a very successful career woman. Incredible job, bought my home in cash. Own 4 cars. Never had a problem finding men...in fact I prefer to be single. Maybe there's more to it?
I wouldn't go as far as selling your house, car & quitting your job. As much as the whole 'don't keep secrets from your partner' saying goes, maybe just don't mention how well off you are until you really get to know the person and you know they'll understand?
if someone doesnt accept u for who u are, theres no reason to worry about trying to please them, theyre not worth it.