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I am willing to give him time to heal, but I'm worried that because of his past relationships in which he was hurt that he might only see me as an opportunity to get hurt again, and thus not want to get involved with me. The interesting part about all of this is that he is taking the time to heal, but part of me wants to wait for him because I can't help but wonder 'what if' if I don't wait.
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why do you feel like you can prove that to him? if he has been hurt, he has to proove to himself that he can love again after the hurt , it's not your responsibility, sounds like you need to work a little bit more on yourself, before you can save someone else. it is true! you're just to young, or immature to understand. believe me it's his responsibility to work his own trust issues. he has to choose better mates, take his time, and make sure she's compatible to his standards, morals, and values.

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that not true because if a man knows that there are women out there that are willing to prove that they not out to hurt him they he will see that there can love and trust again

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How can you just assume you know this girl? Obviously she's not "too immature to understand" because she posted this question on the internet to try and understand!! Stop making assumptions about people you barely know.

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the pot calling the kettle black! how do you know i don't know her? now youre making assumptions. stay in your own lane. the advise wasn't for you!

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This question is similiar from what 've been through, unless am the opposite side, I have rejected someone who told me<br />
He inlove with me twice, and he said it never change his feelin and still wait for me,<br />
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The situation is u can't pushed love, nomatter how beautiful what u offered to him<br />
Just liked blogdog said it different for a guy to deal with his feelin, there r deny, ego<br />
And pride that need to be healed, and those things r aside than sex<br />
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Maybe what he need now is "friend" not a lover idk with other guys but word "lover/partner" bring out<br />
Pressure and demand that in this situation he couldn't handle<br />
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Maybe when he can see clearly, he would find back his lost love in u<br />
Goodluck

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You shouldn't focus on proving anything..just be patient and be there for him

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tell him you're into that

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Well all you have to do is show him that love. Make him feel that he is the only man in your life. Dont have too many guy friends because maybe thats how his past relationship was. He will be insecure all the time with u. U dont have to wait. Just let him kno u r there to be there forever and u will help him get through his past by giving him something the last trick couldnt. And one major thing... Do something she couldnt do and KEEP HIM.

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Is he in the healing stage? Or the healed staged? He can only love again if he is healed and only he can deal with that.

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I ALWAYS TOLD MY MAN THAT I WOULD NEVER HURT. AND THAT I WILL NEVER LEAVE HIM, I KNOW WHEN A WOMAN SAY THAT IT'S HARD FOR A MAN TO BELIEVE. IT WHEN HE HAS HEARD THOSE LINE'S BEFORE SO ALL YOU CAN DO IS SHOW HIM LIKE THEY SAY ACTION SPEAKS LOUDER THAN WORDS.

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One of the unwritten rules of love is that it is not right to ever burden a current lover or potential lover with whatever has happened to you in the past. It is simply not fair. It is not your job to help him "heal." Love is always a major risk for anyone; those of us who are old enough to have had our hearts broken know that. It is a risk we either decide to take or not. If he is not ready for a relationship at this time, then he should not be spending any serious time with you. It is wrong and unfair for him to want you to prove that you won't hurt him. In any case, how could anyone prove such a thing? You have no idea whether or not you will wind up hurting him. You can only state that this is not your current intention. If that is not enough, let him go. If you are worried about losing him, don't; so far, he is too hung up on his past to commit to anything anyway.

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I didn't know love had any rules at all

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Let him heal THEN get with him until then girl keep it moving life is too short and there are too many men with less issues out there!

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In his current state of mind, there's really nothing that you can do to change his mind right now. Give him time, as you already have, and that's the best you can do today.<br />
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I'm a man and have been through similar situations so I'll tell you my experiences on that. When a guy is in love, he fully trusts his soul to his mate. He'll reveal himself to her and leave himself very vulnerable. That's not to say that women don't do that, but for a guy it's a major deal. After a guy breaks up from such a relationship, he feels hurt, depressed, and angry at himself for having fallen in love with someone who later broke his heart. Our tendency to "fix things" comes into play and we rationalize a logical answer to prevent us from going through that pain again. We decide not to fall in love again.<br />
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Stupid, I know, but at that point we are in repair mode and this is how we deal with it. At that point smothering him with kisses won't make him look at you differently. He might still enjoy sex but it won't be with love or an emotional connection with you. In time this feeling will go away and he will forget all about his pain. That's the time you can tell him that you want him. Forget about telling him that you won't hurt him. At that point he will see only the joy of being with you and not the pain you might cause him someday, if ever.<br />
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As the old saying goes, it's better to have loved and lost than to never have loved at all. I may have that wrong but the message is the same.

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absoluteley spot on !!!

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I just try to understand him and not be to clingy with him, i'm not clingy in relationships in general anyway but if he can trust me that's a start and then maybe something more if enough chemistry is there

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you can't cause you don't know.... And you're too young to make such promises..

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When you really love him, it doesn't matter how long you have to wait. Because you're willing to wait for him, no matter what.

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