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I used to work on the same level as my workmates, but since I have been promoted to Supervisor I feel that they have made things difficult for me by being obstructive and I know they are jealous- not just of my job, but also because Im married and they have no man. One in particular is only nice to me when she wants something and Im sure she is backstabbing me. I have been emotionally open with them before and feel this makes it hard for them to accept me as supervisor. I am looking for another job, partly because of the atmosphere and partly because I was pressured to be supervisor as no one else was trained to. I am rubbish at saying no to the boss as she has complete autonomy. She also has a good position locally and people can not stand up to her. People, me included would do what she wanted or she has a way of spreading things about you to others and making you look bad. (It has happened to me before) I really cannot see how I can win in this situation. I have worked there 5 year

If you seem to attract fake friends, then it's because you let fake friends cross your boundaries. Ask yourself what it is in you that needs everyone else's approval so much at the workplace that you allow them to walk all over you.

Reassess which people will be most helpful to you in meeting your work goals and concentrate on them. The rest will only be distractions. Also, don't be too quick to reveal how you feel to others. Be civil and pleasant to everyone, but you are under no obligation to let them poke around your personal life. Keep in mind a) why you're working and b) who's paying you to work. The more focused you appear to your subordinates, the more likely they are to see that you mean business and won't take crap from them anymore.

However, if you think that there are more cons than pros to staying in this job, then start anew somewhere else and be more careful about making friends at work next time.

Hope this helps.