How do I stop my partners emotional bullying from affecting me?
13 Answers to "How do I stop my partners emotional bullying from affecting me?"
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They should not be emotionally bullying you in the first place PERIOD!! If they are, of course it is going to affect you, you care about them. There is no way to stop yourself from feeling pain from their bullying. What you should be concerned about is not allowing this type of behavior to continue. They either need to get their behavior in check, counseling is always an option or you need to find someone who will treat you better. I also believe that with time this type of behavior will tend to get worse, not better.....No time like the present to take a stand.
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Leave immediately nobody has the right to use emotional abuse. Be strong and have confidence in yourself. Good Luck
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Emotional blackmail?
Everyone uses it to some degree and some use it all the time. Parents in particular are notorious for this type of behaviour towards their children and it is normal behaviour in dysfunctional families and in emotionally deprived individuals. Presumably you still love your partner so separation would not be under consideration.
Emotional bullying is a form of posturing so one method would be to, as the saying goes in card games, call his bluff. If he backs down then it could modify his behaviour but equally he may wind himself up into a greater fervor and become maniacal. Try to identify the emotional content of his threats and reflect them back to him. There is a bit of a skill in this but it is not difficult to learn. -
Leave him / her. It's not worth it and it will not improve even if they act as if they are aware and sorry for their actions at times.
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Tell them that you won't put up with it! if you're not married leave for a good few hours or days next time they try to mess with your head. (even if you aremarried--i guess i'm getting at...don't abandon your kids if there are those)
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Find a new partner.
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Leave or you will end up an insecure self doubting shell of your former self.
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YOU CAN NOT FIX HIM !! NO MATTER HOW MUCH CRAP YOU TAKE FROM HIM WILL NOT MAKE HIM BETTER. YOUR RELATIONSHIP IS BROKEN AND PIECES ARE LOST FOREVER.
Stop, your care and concern is needed else where. Where it can heal someone elses brokeness. If you are broken you can not do what you were meant to do with your life.
There is someone for him, but you are not it. Move on! so you both can be happy. -
If you love your partner....it will always affect you, as long as you are with that person....
You should leave....Don't give anyone that much control over yourself.....You need to take care of YOU. -
YOU DON'T!!! Get out now......
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Does your partner know how their behaviour is making you feel? If they doesn't then tell them, straight up, not in confrontation, just straight. If they are worth the effort, talk things through and seek their agreement that they will do everything in their power to recognise and adjust their behaviour, including some form of counselling if necessary.
If you feel you are worthless, leave!
If they don't care about you, ie they feel your emotions are worthless - leave! -
thats good good that cannotsee other in pain
its your goodness so dont runn from that
they show you heir pain becase tey believe in you and havefaith that you will liston ttheir problem ,,,,,,,o don't ignore tha ................Its the time when you an winn their hearts..........
bu if u still want to turn your face then talk to her straight forward
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just make her realise that she should be strong and she is not only one in problem so she should not try
TRY THESE
1] tell her that her other friends didn't crywhen tey get inpoblem {that could be a lie}
2]tell her that you have also been in the sme problem
and convince her that she shuld not cry...{also lie once}
Best Answer (Chosen by Voting):
Posted by fungirlmmm Jul 18th, 2009 at 12:35AM
Leave him and don't live in the abuse any longer.
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