How do I talk to my mom about having a say in my apperence without her thinking I'm disrespectful?
My mother thinks I am a mannequin instead of a teen. When I was 2, then I would need her to dress me. But now I'm 13, so I feel this is when I should have a say in what I wear or how I want my hair cut. But for me this isn't just about deciding my apperence, this is me finally gaining independence.
5 Answers to "How do I talk to my mom about having a say in my apperence without her thinking I'm disrespectful?"
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I would ask that she understand that your getting older and that you have a desire to develop your own look so that as an adult you will have a since of fashion/style and can they start letting you learn so u don't make mistakes when your in HS. It's kinda like dressing yourself only U want to be able to start picking what U choose from. You may want to get a PT job so U can spend some of your own and not just theirs it will make it easier.
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Mom, you were my age once, you grew up at a different time, you had different friends etc. I need to figure this out by myself. I love you more than anything else in this world but I need to find my own way. Will you give me some freedom to do that? i promise you it will come to pass and we will end up laughing at this in the near future.
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It's commendable that you want to have that conversation with her without being disrespectful!!! I wish more teens were like that. I'd pretty much just bring it up much like you worded it here :-)
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Remind her she was that age one time. You should have a say in what way you want to look at your age.
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Posted by chimbie88 Jan 4th, 2013 at 10:58PM
You may want whatever you want for yourself. It isn't disrespectful for you to want to dess yourself. Its actually disrespectful for her to expect you to constantly submit to being dressed by her. The way you said it above is really great. I'd actually almost say it word for word back to her actually. Gl!
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