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How do I tell my bf after 2 1/2 years that I want to see other people?

I love my bf, but i am not in love with him. He wants to get married, I do not. I think i deserve what I want. But I always give him what he wants. I just need some advice on how to tell him.

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CrossEyedMary	Posted Aug 29th, 2009 at 12:03PM Say, "Now that we have a history together, and have settled into really knowing each other and accepting each other for who we are, faults and all, still I miss the shallow fantasy romance that comes with just getting to know someone and inventing him in my mind to create a delusion that will fade away when he tells me 'I trust and respect you enough to want to marry you'" :) Rated: +2Vote for this!
silvrsurfr	Posted Aug 26th, 2009 at 1:59PM In a public place...with friends nearby.... Rated: +1Vote for this!
rusted	Posted Aug 26th, 2009 at 2:00PM Splitting up now will be a lot easier than having to divorce later. Just say "I'm not really into you any more" Then make the split. Don't try to stay friends with him, you will force him into a living hell. Just leave. Rated: +1Vote for this!
2Emotional	Posted Aug 26th, 2009 at 2:03PM First off, tell him in person, because breaking up over the phone, or through email is just wrong. I'm not saying you would do that, but I've known people who chose not to do it face to face. Just tell him that you've grown apart, and while you still care for him, you feel you need to move on. He's obviously going to be hurt, but better to do it now, than stay together longer than you want. The longer you stay the harder it's going to be. Rated: +1Vote for this!
lost12345	Posted Aug 26th, 2009 at 2:28PM I really don't know what advice I could give you.. it seems a shame that you wasted 2 1/2 years of your life and his life! I think that since you have been together for so long you owe him an explanation in person. Possible take him out for dinner, and after ordering just tell him how it is! Rated: +1Vote for this!
unicorn59	Posted Aug 26th, 2009 at 2:46PM You go to the top of your window, click on "print"....print out this question, then stick it in an envelope, and put his name on it.... Or you could do it Britney style, and send him a text.... Or, maybe just sit and have a real heart to heart, with him.....Tell him that you love him, but marriage isn't something you feel you want with him....you are both young....and you just need him to respect your wishes, on this......If he really loves you, it will hurt, but he'll want you to be happy, even if it's not with him. Rated: +1Vote for this!
Chikondi	Posted Aug 26th, 2009 at 5:49PM I think u should sit with him and tell himhow u feel, i mean the whole truth an dc how he reactx. Rated: +1Vote for this!
Duparc	Posted Aug 26th, 2009 at 7:19PM Similar to 'lovelites' view, try to tell him that you are not yet ready to settle into a close or long-term relationship and try not to say too much more about it at this moment in time. As time passes then drip-feed this idea to him in small doses and begin to see him less often. The situation should resolve itself and may hurt him but, at least, you will be doing it gently. Rated: +1Vote for this!

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