knightwhispers response is absolutely correct. I would add one thing . . . make sure your feelings are authentic and not because you are having cold feet about the wedding or that the family difficulties are driving this decision.<br />
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If you don't love him, tell him before the marriage. But make sure you understand your own true feelings or you may be making a huge mistake.

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If you are afraid he's the best you will ever get, then you are compromising both yourself and him. Yourself … because you will never know, unless you find yourself tested and you surely don't want that. Him … because you are holding onto him from some form of misguided loyalty when, instead, he could be free to start over again. You say you no longer love him (after you say he's the best you will ever get) and you also mention family issues from both side then go on to say you aren't strong enough to go it alone with him.<br />
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Do both yourselves a favour and let him know how you really feel. No matter how much he loves you, clearly you don't love him with the same gusto; you are being terribly unfair to him in how you hang in for all the wrong reasons. You seem to indicate that you are doing him a favour as things are, and that should you break up with him, then you will (somehow) be causing him 'damage'. When the reality is that you are damaging him in thought and in your heart and trying to convince yourself this is going to sort itself out.<br />
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Tell him your feelings, and if nothing changes from that point then do him a favour if you cannot do one for yourself; move on.<br />
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~F~

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You just need to be straight forward, or simply put it that you don't owe him any other explanation then - I am doing this for me-<br />
i know what you are going through, keep your head up and heart strong!

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Please tell that man how u feel.It's not going to be easy because u know that he loves u,whoever doing the right thing isn't always easy but It can be done.Just pray about it first, If thats your thing,then wait for the answers,then if not u will just have to be brave.after the pain is over and he has moved on,he will LOVE and RESPECT YOU for your HONESTY,But If you continue to lead him on then he will HATE YOU AND LOOSE ALL RESPECT FOR YOU.Ask yourself....... What would you like the end result to be.Good luck dear.

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gee dont wait to the "do you take this man" part to say "I dont"

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Just like that. No arguing it. Closure will be difficult at first. But if you continue on just because you do not want confrontation, you are being unfair to all involved, most importantly, you're being unfair to yourself.

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Then don't..tell him how you feel. The most important part being "I'm not in love with you". As for your feelings of never finding anyone better....put those to the side because they are hardly ever true. Don't lead him on. Don't lead yourself on either. It sucks being in an unhappy marriage. Get out while you can!

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