house rules apply to everyone...husband needs to speak to her.
I don't know that I would. She is obviously depressed. Just work with that and ask her for the dishes every night so it doesn't become a health problem. If she isn't showering, then that is a real sign, and she needs a family intervention to see a doctor.
What the whiskered one wrote.
BUy A Rat And slip it in there at night. Or......Discuss with your husband the need for her to get an apartment. He can discuss it with her whether serious or not and let her know the room is filthy.I would suggest not doing it yourself as you are really up set.
Correction--she lives with my husband and ME---ob
As for your problem--being that it's your house--tell her you have certain rules that you wish her to respect as you would if it was her house.
I would have a discussion with her son first. Explain how much this disgusting mess is offending you. And that it is not fair that the rest of the house is kept tidy which requires the efforts of everyone else. Your husband needs to step up & defend you, it is that simple.
I have been taken into people's homes during some troublesome times in my past, & let me say that I kept my room neat, even though I was...well... a slob. It is a privilege for her to be living in your home, not a right. I know this fact first hand, believe me. Every home has certain established rules & all who dwell there must abide by them; regardless of their age.
If the roles were reversed, would not she be talking directly to you concerning your room in her home? I believe so.
Oh wait! Cut off her internet & tell her you had to use those funds in order to hire a maid to clean HER room! Just kidding!
Sorry, just adding some levity. In short, something must be tactfully said to this woman; & honestly, this responsibility is not yours.
Do you have a dog? Start to gathering the dog's poo and throw it all around her room. Make sure to dilute it with a little water first for enhanced effect.
why is she living with you? she needs her own space so are you.
You shouldn't have to say anything to her. Her son should speak with her.
Since she is aged appoint some maid to attend her needs. IF it is not affordable Keep a big Waste Basket in her room and ask her to drop all the used dishes and other such things in that. So that at least the rest of the room can be clean. Once a day that basket can be changed.