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Guess I should explain. We connected online and started as friends, but I've fallen in love with him. He seems to care very much for me, but I'm having a hard time telling whether he just wants to be friends or he's in love with me too. I should also mention that he's married and lives in another state. I don't want to lose him as a friend, but I don't want to hurt his wife, his family, or him, and I don't want to get hurt either.

I might be able to help with that. I love all of my exes. I'm not IN love with them, but I don't believe that true feelings of love ever fully go away. Some people claim that they do, but I think they are lying to others and themselves. Even if you discover that your significant other is evil, you still have feelings for the person that you THOUGHT (s)he was.

I still talk to all of my exes, and it's not a big deal. We both know that we can't be together. That doesn't mean that we can't appreciate each other's friendship.

Anyway, If you think he may feel the same, then have a mutual break up. Admit to one another that you both care for each other very much as people, but you both agree that you are just not meant to spend life with one another. It's okay to still be friends.. really. I suggest not being "friends with benefits" though. It almost always brings strong desires that can't be filled.

If he doesn't agree, and thinks that you are meant for one another, I suggest that you point out your differences. If you know that it's the right thing, you must have a pretty strong case why you feel that way.

Just my opinion.