How Do You Control A Tantrum 2Year Old?

Look kindly and with sympathy upon your child, say something like "Oh honey, I am so sorry you are feeling so bad...just stay there and when you are feeling better we can go on and (whatever you were doing) and I'll be right here. I can't wait until you are better because I just love to be with you." If you must leave pick him/her up and quietly whisper sweet words into they're ear and take them to a quiet place. Listen for the meaning behind the tantrum...is she/he hungry, tired, hot, sleepy? Remember a tantrum is caused by the fact that the child does not have words yet to explain why they are feeling bad. By communicating your love and care you are teaching your child how to love and listen to others by your own example.

YOu completely ingnore the behavior. However, put him or her in their room until they calm themselves down.

Be nice about it though.

A good spanking. It is also good to control the tantrum of a 32 year old.

have you tried not giving them your attention? yea its kinda passive but the whole point of them fallin out like they lost their mind is for you to pay them attention. when they do bad, leave them alone. when they do good give them rewards. they respond better to positive stuff. every now & then i may throw one with them. that only sometimes works tho because some kids look at you like you're crazy while others just get worse. getting in the corner for a minute can work but i think kids that little don't always understand time outs.

Okay, for what it's worth: If they haven't already gone thermonuclear, make sure you know *what* they are really upset about.

Sometimes my Stunt Nephew seems unreasonable but when I take maybe one minute to find out what is really bothering him, it's because he didn't know how to communicate something or other. But if he is being naughty, I do what Mrsicb4rP advises.

Always worth spending a minute to find out. Once I thought he was acting up because he insisted on going to the loo with me (oh Man!), 30 seconds later I realized that it was because he really REALLY needed to go, and was in a lot of distress. No more debate. I let him go *first*, and he peed for like 45 seconds non-stop. Poor little guy!

If they have already gone thermonuclear all you can do is to carry them and take them out of public view so they can cool down and regain control without losing face.

Just how *I* do it, may not be for everyone...

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Children throw tantrums because they still have difficulties expressing exactly what they need and what they feel. But as soon as they are done, they just forget about it and go on with their activities.

At this point, it's best to let him know that you're giving him a short time out (no longer than two minutes), and when he's done yelling you'll be back so you can talk.

Many folks, especially those who have little or no experience with children, assume that the child throws tantrums on purpose and take it personally or worse, retaliate against the child.

Don't hit or spank the child, and don't say nasty things when he's blowing off steam. He wouldn't understand why, and this will only reinforce the idea in him that it's okay to hit others or mouth off when there's conflict. Just keep your distance for a while and try to be patient but firm. This will show him that you're giving him space to vent and you're not abandoning him, but throwing a fit won't get him what he wants. The only time you should intervene is if he starts hurting other kids or himself.

When my son throws a tantrum, I just tell him that I'll wait for him to finish in another room, then when he's done he can come to me. So he does his business, and when it's over he asks me if I'm angry, and I calmly tell him no (even when sometimes I am). That way he sees that I'm not threatening his sense of security, and it makes it easier for him to tell me what he really feels or needs.

Remember that children learn by what you show, not by what you tell them, so if you lose your temper easily, they're more likely to do the same.

time out.....and a hammer

Ignore...? Beat...? Sing...?

Why not try to find out the cause of their frustration....

The problem is they are tired and unable to communicate. Imagine if you were tired, unable to communicate and you had stomach cramps or you were hungry or you wanted something....maybe you were bored but completely depended on someone else to "divine" what you needed and to take care of it....Yikes!

Parents are into this control...power thing...I will NOT give in ...I Will NOT bribe...I will beat you....Why?

Why not say "what do you want?" "What do you need?" "Why are you uncomfortable...do you need to go home?" " Do you need sleep? How about some ice cream...?"

Don't expect that they will know the answer...that is where your superior intelligence comes in...work with them...learn them and their needs...Don't always "give in"...but rather "give"...maybe your time...your attention...your understanding or your patience...

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I always sing. If the child has thrown him/herself onto the floor try sitting down next to him/her and sing whatever comes into your head. Most times the child wants your undivided attention for whatever reason, and for the time it takes you to take a deep breath and sit on the floor and sing 'softly'. The child now has your attention, and I find that most times he/she will stop screaming long enough to wonder why this adult is now on the floor with them singing. I find this works most times. Good Luck.

jump up and down beside them, shouting 'i want some peace! I want some peace! I want some peace!!' they'll see how ridiculous you look and it'll stop them in their tracks. Then, turn to them and say 'Am i embarrassing you?' When they say you are, point out that that is exactly how you feel when they do it - i did this with my daughter years ago; not only has she never paddied again, my other kids haven't either as they were also present. You'll only have to do it once to make your point and let's face it, when you're out and about and your child tantrums, people are all staring at you and judging you anyway, so why not give them something to stare at? I swear to god, this works - call it shock tactics, lol.

Try everythin g...and you will find out what aorks for your 2 year old....and if you have another....well the ting that works for one....might not work for another....But here are some tips.....

Ignore them.....and since they are not getting the attention well they might stop...

Act just like them....and they will start to laugh so much....that they will stop....

Get a spray bottle...and give them a quick spritz in the face...Not ment to hurt...But it does get their attention....and it gets them to stop



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