1. You detach yourself from that person 100%, no phone calls, text messages, FB or promises to remain "friends." You request that all of your friends, family or anyone else who knows him (or her) not mention him to you or tell you any gossip or news about him or pass on any kind of a message from him. NO communication!<br />
2. You put your mind on other things and attempt to get on with your life as best you can. While you are waiting for the feelings of hurt and anger to fade, get hold of a copy of The Gift of Fear by Gavin DeBecker. This book is a good, absorbing read and it can teach you how to avoid predatory people and how to cope with him if you do have to deal with such a person. This book will give you the tools to prevent others from hurting you. It will make you feel stronger and better able to defend yourself against bad people.<br />
3. You forgive yourself for being a victim and allowing a bad person to take advantage of you. You remind yourself that you are not the bad guy here and that everyone makes mistakes. You remind yourself that you are smarter now and will take more time to get to know someone before you get involved. You give yourself permission to spend some money on a background check if you feel it might help you decide whether or not to get seriously involved with someone. You forgive yourself and allow yourself to move on. You do not get involved in another romance right away but you do everything in your power to move on so that this jerk who took advantage of your naivete will not have put too much of a dent in your life.<br />
4. You remind yourself often that trust is not a gift to be handed out to someone just because you are attracted and that person has won your heart. There may indeed be such a thing as love at first sight but there should never be trust at first sight, or in the early stages of a relationship. Trust needs to be handed out slowly, in small increments, ba<x>sed on how well a person we are getting to know has earned it. We can have affection for someone but it should take more than our affection to extend our trust to someone. Trust must be earned. And, as you have found, it can be withdrawn as well.
Last I checked, it cost one cent on Amazon! It is certainly worth the price and far more. You will be glad you read this.
Vote them out of the whitehouse in November.
I chuckle while graveside at their funeral, and urinate on the marker after everybody leaves.
Punch them in the throat