If she's a child you need to try your best to like her. You were once a child youself. Treat her like you would like to be treated..<br />
If she has behavioural problems, let her father deal with her..<br />
Stay calm and patient and look out for, as you would most likely have done yourself as a child.<br />
It's maybe hard for her to accept that your her stepmum. Maybe she needs time to come to terms that she's got you in her life now.<br />
Good luck! :)<br />
look at why you don't like if she is still a child she could be scared that you are taking her daddy, you are an adult deal with it and don't expect her father to chose you will lose. children do and should come first. If she is an adult sit her down and hash out your differences, like two grown ups or leave.
You must delve into why you can't stand her.
honey,i was in the same situation.but im glad im not anymore,being married to a person with teen kids specially if they will lived with you is like hiting your head in the wall every time you get annoyed with them.So believe me,blood is thicker than water.If the father cannot discipline his own kids,why should they care about you.And if you keep nagging their father about them,it will turned out you and your husband end up arguing and fighting.So better decide whether you deal with it or moved out and get your own place.
if she's being a ***** it's probably to do with your nasty attitude to her. what do you mean you "can't stand her" get a grip. be an adult<br />
You have ONE choice. Suck up everything you percieve as negative, and absorb it. and reflect grace back as grace to her. Give her TIME. I don't mean wait I mean GIVE HER YOUR TIME. when your tired, giver her time anyway, I don't know how old she is but respect and time must come fro your soul .<br />
sounds to me you are living a paint-by-numbers life crossing the t's and dotting the i's and j's and you missed the point. you represent the demolition of that girls lifes and dreams. You have no choice. Suck it up. Throw back grace. And tell her you're weak if you're weak, tell her she's hurting you if she's hurting you. but never get angry never give her a dirty look, never subtly be cruel. there is never any excuse.<br />
and ffs learn to LIKE her
Well, erinware, I have a wood chipper and a dog that will eat anything! LOL<br />
Seriously, I feel ya! I have a stepson...whew<br />
Pray everyday for a speedy 18 year old birthday party and then give her a business card to the nearest Army recruiter!
well, I am not in that situation. If I was, maybe I would avoid her? Or maybe I'd try to use psychology to change her. Or I'd talk to her dad and say, "it is worrying how your daughter____, this could have the consequences for her later of____, and she is not respecting me." But mostly, I guess avoid he?