How do you deal with anyone who just talks about their problems and doesn't really care about yours? :/
15 Answers to "How do you deal with anyone who just talks about their problems and doesn't really care about yours? :/"
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Some people are needy in certain points in their life. You can look at it as an opportunity to help them by listening. You can also interject things about your life while she's talking about her problems.
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I listen and try to help. What do you do?
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sounds weird maybe ask their advice to force them to stop talking bout themselves? idunno or just talk to someone else ha!
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u_u
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I talk about my problems with someone else.
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ehhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhh so got a 'friend' like that. It's not just a few-incidents type of thing. It's every time I have an issue, she offers no sort of advice. She kind of humms it away...........I'm like, Really?
Don't you hum at me you hummingbird. But I can redirect the convo back to an old problem of hers and she's the Wendy Williams show all of sudden. I think it's selfish. And it def. doesn't make you feel good. You want people to feel empathy when you're both sharing.
I'd say put more effort into keep discussing your problems. Still no response, then bring up the issue with her, confront her/him--- sorry, didn't think about the double gender thing til now. If it comes to it, then maybe s/he's not on your A-list of friends.Like (2)
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Stop letting them use you. Be honest about this issue with them and if they still aren't interested, next time they try to come to you for advice just say something like "idk what to tell you" and end it.
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Walk away.
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ditch them, life's too short.
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Avoidance works well for me.
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That would be my brother. I ignore him.
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I stop allowing them to waste my time and I stop talking to them.
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awesome avi pic!!
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Thanks. :)
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Forget those *******! :/
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i can't :(
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Aw...well I'm here if u need a friend!! :D
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Stop giving my ears to them.. I don't like to be used as dustbin for anyone.. Sharing is to be done equally.. There is Norway to land your ear like this where you are just a listener.. Get over Itami stop landing your ear to such people..
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If you value, and want to maintain a relationship with this person then you simply have to understand and accept your role in the friendship - the sounding board for their problems. Learn to manage your expectations about people... we are all different, we all bring different things to the table, and we all play different roles in our relationships with other people. This person is obviously not a "listener", but I'm sure you know someone else who is. Perhaps they can fill your need to be "heard" instead. Accepting this person the way they are, and realizing they won't change, makes you a great friend.
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Best Answer (Chosen by Voting):
Posted by Rennn Oct 20th, 2012 at 10:15PM
It sounds like they want help... If you want to give it, then okay. If you don't want that, I don't think there's really a way to force them to be interested.
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