Its very difficult....and can leave great emotional Scars into your adult life but you have to find peace within your Soul...youre better than them
I am going to get my justice it will just take me a while.
know your understanding is better
just feel smug being you instead of getting justice
laugh at them, maybe call them pathetic, then walk away laughing knowing how awesome you are
forgive them. for they no not what they do. OK maybe they do. forgive them. move on so you dont become that which you despise!
I read your story to get some understanding on where you were coming from with your question. First, let me say I am sorry you have had such a terrible experience.
I have never experienced anything like you have so while I sympathize with how you are feeling I can not come close to saying I know how you feel. I can tell you however that every person deals with problems differently and on their own personal timeline. Your mom was/is just as much a victim as you are since she was abused by him as well. Perhaps your mom is in denial and therefore continues to keep in touch with her dad or perhaps she has dealt with the abuse and has forgiven him. Either way, it is her choice in how she is dealing with her abuse and not a reflection on how she feels about your abuse at his hands. I am in no way defending your mom’s actions, but rather trying to give you a perspective you may have not considered. With that said, we as individuals can not be responsible for other people’s actions or feelings. Be responsible only to yourself in choosing how to deal with your experience and do what you feel is best for you. Realize that your mom’s decision and attitudes are beyond your control. Focus your efforts and feelings on recovering from your abuse as that is in your control even though it may not be easy.
In my life experiences, I have found there is a certain peace that comes with accepting those things which you can not change, and in fact often times gives me more clarity and energy to deal with the things I can change. I wish you nothing but the best and hope you are able to find peace with your situation.
I do not deal with injustices very well.
In your situation I would try and find a way that would be merciful, yet just. If the person is currently abusing someone, call the authorities. If it is in the past, go to counselling for yourself and urge the other person to go to counseling as well. There is also healing at the font. If you are a spiritual person go to the church for counseling etc. I like to lean on our Heavenly Father for everything. :-)
I hope all goes well!
welcome to my world :D
it's like I'm looking into a mirror lol
I understand. .. I read your story
My cousin abused me when I was young.. but in my family.. we do not speak of such things. .. everyone pretends like nothing bad happened. it's all good. my entire life was like that. let bygones be bygones. .. I also cut most of them off.
I can also get very angry... it feels like it's all the time. but.. I'm learning to accept it. with no justice.. but my anger gets triggered easily. I noticed.. that is a big flaw of mine. .. I've been mellowing out lately.
I take that back. searching for inner peace and God has been a big help for me. Good Luck.
My husband just left me after 23 days of marriage.I have no idea where hes at. If u figure out the answer to ur question please let me know.