Ask my kids how they do it...they say I am annoying, but, they don't pay me rent, won't take out my garbage, won't even help me, take out my little dog, when she's
I even kicked one out last week, and, she's still here.....Gee, i wonder, maybe she can get a job, at that hotel, with Norman, Hurldog?
Thank you, my intentions, were to make you laugh..gee, your mum, sounds like sh'e not much older than me, and, i'm a old hippie, take her out dancing, and have a good time with her, i betcha, she'd love, doing that ,with ya'.
A friend of mine took care of his ailing mother for the last 39 years until she passed away this past February at the age of 89. All of his neighbours think that he is a hero for never letting her stay and rot in a nursing home for the rest of her life. While it has affected him, he doesn't regret it one bit. He did a great job taking care of her. There were a lot of funny moments under that roof. One example is he was complaining about rush hour traffic being too thick and cars weren't moving and she told him "Shut up, you're beginning to sound like an old woman." And she was 88 years old at the time. I couldn't help but to ask her "How old is old?" She said: "How do I know? Older than me, that's for sure." He did a great job doing a very thankless job. It's never easy, but it is very rewarding. And as for you adult kids out there, if you live with mom & dad, quit freeloading and carry your own weight. They are your parents, not your nursemaids. If you're not freeloading, then this message is not meant for you. This message is primarily directed in support of ChipperChick as she deals with the problem she is facing.
Think of what she put up with while you were young. People change when they get old. She may need you. try to help her while you can pit up with it. It is not for ever. One day when you are standing next to a six foot deep hole in the ground you will be glad. One day you will be in her place. Just my take.
"Think of what she put up with while you were young." Parents choose to have children, we do not choose to be born. "One day you will be in her place." Not necessarily, some of us chose not to have children, therefore will will not obligate our offspring. "One day when you are standing next to a six foot deep hole in the ground you will be glad." Spot on. Even tho' aging parents can be a PITA.
So, my Mom does that excues ALL the time!!!!!
She can NOT always use THAT excuse forever!!!!!!!!!!
Many will tell you that you should put up with it because she put up with you, and that one day she’ll be gone and you’ll long to hear her once again. While all this is extremely true, right now I believe it’s meaningless to you, as you cannot comprehend it.
First off, realize that no matter how she acts, she still loves you!!! Now then, is there a medical condition that makes your mom act this way? (I’m assuming that from your age she’s in her 60’s). Is she lonely? (even though you are around, she can be lonely for someone her age to talk to) Is she finding out that she can no longer do what she did when she was younger and is venting it out on you?
Is there anyone you can go to who can help “run interference” for you so you can get away? (siblings, friends, etc.) You do need to get away for a while, as this can and will affect your mental wellness.
my dad too... just 11 months ago*!!!!!!
*I miss him SO much!!!!!!!!!
Make friends and treet her like your sister.
my mom is the same she tells me what to do all the times
and i hate it. I hate her!!! but i HAVE to love her. What do "i" do?!! :( please help me! PLEASE ! ! !
wish she were still around to annoy me :(
Just try to put up with her. She put up with you and your tantrums and naughtiness when you were a child yet she coped.As I wish my beloved mother was still alive.
I moved out!
that's funny.... lol
same here.. its like I wanna get away but sometimes I don and i really need to igore most of the situations!!!!
Okay first and foremost. Yes, obviously you love your mom and should value time spent with her and she won't be there one day and think of all the stuff she has done for you etc...honestly the relationship cannot improve if she is not willing to work on it and that also includes you. Any relationship that endures troubles and wants to improve means BOTH people must make the effort. She doesn't get special privileges because she's older than you no matter what anybody says. We all live on this planet and age really doesn't mean jack ****. You can be a 50 year old who still acts like she's 5. Or a 15 year old who is thinking they know all. Being older doesn't make you mature nor does having a job, drinking alcohol and smoking. Its effort, understanding and "emotional maturity" that makes you an adult.
I would try and sit down with her when your both calm and discuss the issue and your feelings with her. If this is not possible for whatever reason try getting a neutral third party. If nothing else my best recommendation to save your sanity and the relationship is not to live in the same household or spend only a set amount of time in her company.
I think since I don't know more of the situation it is not easy to make a fully encompassed answer to your question. Sometimes when you spend too much time around any one person it can become overbearing and you begin to get annoyed with them. So this isn't a unique situation. I, myself, struggle with this very same issue with my own mother.
Our relationship vastly improved when I had my own place. However due to circumstances and money I am staying with her currently. You should be able to enjoy her company but the fact of the matter is people above make it sound sooo black and white but situations are almost never black and white. You have to consider not only what is best for you but for her. Maybe all this annoyance is creating a rift...and if you find you can't solve through communication sometimes space is the best course of action.
Also at the end of the day what happens when she is gone? Will you remember happy times or all the times she annoyed the hell out of you? I'd much rather fond memories then memories that make me cringe and wonder why me and my mom couldn't get along.
I hope this helps. This is just my personal opinion and ba