I don't. I leave them whining and flailing pathetically alone
You have to get them to see they are dodging the responsibility of their actions. People who do this are abdicating responsibility and are powerless. I refuse to be a victim. When I was 8 and being abused I stood up for myself and got slapped down ever time but it did not stop me. I yelled as I went down.
You let them come to their own solution through active listening, example"So your sad because she lost her job, thats interesting."
Just ignore them and walk away untill they are ready to listen and learn
Show them a real victim so they can see how stupid they are.
I will not tease them or care of them more than the others.. They need to realise that they are not the only hurted people here. The way they do also hurt the others.. Just be far from them.. They usually waste my time cause they are hard to be changed!
Exactly what do you mean by ACTS? Do you mean was victimized and hasn't been able to work through it yet or never was a victim and is pretending to get attention?
I just go ahead and victimize them.
nonresistant, contrary suggestion.