STOP ENABLING THEM! Let ‘em threaten all they want (it’s just show). As long as you (or others) provide for them, they’ll never change. It’s called tough love! Yes, it hurts, but it’s the only way!

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Just say NO?

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let me tell you that you need help to get rid of her....join a support group like al-anon or co-da.

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Figure out why the hell they're perpetually broke, tell them how not to be, then stop bailing them out.

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Marry her off to my father .If we got to in this kinda boat might as well have help. You man one oar and I the other. Now let's row this shite ashore

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Hahaha, splendid idea! I love it. It really is stressing me out though.

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It sounds like this person has some kind of secret drug/gambling/drinking problem. Otherwise where is that money going? Time to look at the root of the problem and see what's actually going on, otherwise you are paying for this person to get sicker and and sicker, not to mention the unfair financial burden that it places on you. Good luck!

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JUST COMPLETELY STOP GIVING IT TO THEM. Call their bluffs. You need the money to survive also. Tough love is hard, but needs to be done in this situation

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Just taking out one portion of what you say here is where YOU have the power over her and where YOU can stop this. It's in the words: <b>“It's at least $1100.00 monthly she requires, and she always tries to make it my responsibility.</b><br />
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Forget she's a family member straight away; the closer she is to you, the lesser her position to demand of you because she is a family member. She is blackmailing you! It's as if she is saying she needs $1,100 every month and YOU better have it or she is going to commit suicide; you need to put a stop to this … right now.<br />
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Next time tell her NO when she asks for money. You don't need any more words than 'NO!' and either walk away from her or order her out. It seems like you are in a bit of hole here, but it's a hole she put you in. So now seems a good time to take back what she has taken, and what she has taken is the power to say 'No' by way of blackmailing you. Say 'No', stick to your word and leave it; then see how much power you will have taken back.<br />
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~F~

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No...just no. It's unacceptable.

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Tough love.<br />
Sorry... family is hard. You need to sit down and discuss it with someone to decide what you are comfortable doing.<br />
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Once you have a good idea, sit your family member down (with a third party present if you need a show of support) and discuss her options with her. Maybe you can give her an ultimatum so it makes it her decision... she either grows the heck up or she moves the heck out.

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start giving out Monopoly Money--they'll soon get the drift lol

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