How do you deal with superficial conversation that you just aren't into?
5 Answers to "How do you deal with superficial conversation that you just aren't into?"
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I leave i pretend that i have something to do and i simply leave .
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I have done that before :)Like (1)
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Pretend you just remembered something that you needed to ask the person. After they answer, change the subject or leave. This way, you have a very low chance of hurting someone.
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Do you mean change the subject to something less surfaced and vapid? Sometimes it may work but how do you change the topic to something a little deeper especially when someone is busy talking at you, most likely, about something fluffy in attempt to avoid awkward silence and real conversation, oblivious and eyes glazed over?
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To have a deep conversation, all parties must take interest. They don't have to be smart, they just have to want to expand their knowledge (which can be even more rare).
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I try to remain as interested as possible, especially if it's important to the person talking. The world doesn't revolve around me and my interests.
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What about a common interest? Something that runs through the very essence of consciousness and connects us as humans?
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You can't share common interests on every level with every person, there are bound to be times when your partner or friend is gushing about something you care nothing about, but it would be selfish and rude to just tune them out or act uninterested.
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That reminds me of the song by Amanda Marshal when she says: "I'm so tired of the dance, this carousel of superficial conversation gets me nowhere..."
Honestly, I tell them like it is. If it's compliments their after and they say " OMG why do guys like me I'm so ugly" I just say, " Yeah, you are. I don't know why either" and leave it at that. It shuts them up and they usually don't say stuff like that to me again.
If they truly felt that way I wouldn't say that but because they're being all about themselves it's like..no.Like (1)
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Sure, but wouldn't that just be perpetuating the empty conversation? and aggravating them at the same time? I dislike vanity just as much as the next sensible person but what about a more productive approach like if (as you say) the person asks: "OMG why do guys like me I'm so ugly" I'd answer: "Why do you think guys think you're so ugly and what drives you to care?" But people don't talk like this in my age group and if they do I would probably laugh as though they were joking.
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you know, pointing that out like im the bad guy is really rude. Maybe you wouldn't say that but by the way you talk, it seems like you don't deal with it daily. If someone felt as if they where, TRULY felt like that i would help them change their minds but there is a huge difference between people who feel that way and people who are fishing for compliments. People who are fishing for compliments are shallow people who are full of themselves and very narcissistic. These people need to be told or they will not stop. The only thing that's a joke is this question because it seems to me that you don't know what you're talking about at all.
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Posted by 69viv 1 Dec 25th, 2012 at 2:55AM
I ask questions about what the other person is talking about and then if the person answer really short answers, then I talk about what I think about what I asked and hopefully he/she will disagree and then he/she will talk more to press his opinion on me.. Or I just mention stuff about him..
I don't know...Sometimes it's hard, but I don't mind talking to anyone if they need company... I hope that make sense...
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Reply by julienstaheli Dec 25th, 2012 at 4:00AM
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