Speaking from experience (not body-image, but self-worth generally): The problem is that external reinforcement won't help you if you have a mental block about it. If you ask someone for a compliment and they give you one, you'll just assume they're telling you what you want to hear; if they don't give you one, you'll assume they're trying to avoid telling you the awful truth. If a stranger tells you, you'll assume they have an ulterior motive; if a loved one tells you, you'll assume they're humouring you. Subconsciously, you simply don't want to hear that you look good, so you'll always find a way to dismiss that information wherever it comes from.<br />
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Case in point, in the comments to this very question someone said "I'm sure you look great" and you automatically assumed they were being sarcastic.<br />
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You have to work out your own issues first. That's the hard part, and if I could tell you how to do it I probably wouldn't be surfing the net in bed in the middle of the afternoon.

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I am so sorry for you. I really am

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firstly why do u need somebody else to tell u, you are beautiful.Stop depending on the world to lift your spirits.Greatest fights are fought from within.Firstly u need to feel beautiful,only then it would increase your self esteem.Trust me you are way above all this and of course u would be a wonderful person.

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Ask somepeople on Ep or some random forum for some comments. I'm sure you look great, so their comments would be positive.

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I'm not posting my photos online, and I don't appreciate snark.

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I wouldn't suggest that, but making some friends and sharing a picture couldn't be bad. And it isn't snark, I was being honest.

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