How do you forgive after an emotional affair (maybe real, I will never know for sure)?

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Forgiving an emotional affair is NOT EASY....however, it is possible, and it involves you making the choice to forgive this person....It does not mean that you have to forget it....a lot of people think that if they still remember, they haven't forgiven it....not true.

Emotional affairs are just as painful as physical ones....Forgiving someone (for anything), takes a conscious decision from you....to do it....You have to CHOOSE to do it....It's not to let that person off the hook..It's for you.....it's to release you of pain, and poison, that unforgiveness causes....so that you don't carry it around all your life....

Even when you choose to do it....there will be times when it will creep back into your head....just remind yourself that you have forgiven him, for you!....This way...you'll be able to move on....(it doesn't mean, that when you think about it, it won't hurt....but, in time....the pain will ease)

I've been cheated on in this very same way....so, I know what you're going through....and I wish you the best.....God Bless.

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basspla<x>y er	Posted Jul 16th, 2009 at 7:19AM An emotional affair is a warning sign that there are many things to be fixed in a relationship. The forgiving is the easy part. The work comes if you decide you really want to work on your relationship to make it healthy. Rated: +2Vote for this!
Joyce777	Posted Jul 16th, 2009 at 8:38AM I NEVER would. Once a cheat always a cheat. "Emotional" leads to physical. BTW, "Emotional" is REAL. There are many was to cheat, but cheating is cheating. FREE YOURSELF and get away. Rated: +1Vote for this!
Macada	Posted Jul 16th, 2009 at 8:38AM Personally,I don't think that feeling emotion for another person is cheating because a person can not help if they have feelings for someone,they can help whether they act on those feelings and it becomes physical.As far as forgiving,remember forgiving is something you do for yourself not for the other person.If you don't feel you can forgive or ever trust again I would get out of the relationship. Rated: +1Vote for this!
miguelote	Posted Jul 16th, 2009 at 9:25AM You should decide how important the relationship is and then find out what caused it to happen in the first place. The emotional affair seems harder to deal with than a physical one since the partner will usually say it's just a friend and therefore there's little guilt involved. But it leads to physical affairs and the not knowing part can destroy you if you let it. My wife to this day denies the fact that she loved or at least cared deeply for her boyfriend,yet she went to great lengths to hide it from me. Does'nt really add up. Rated: +1Vote for this!

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