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How do you forgive people who have hurt you when they have never asked you to?

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    atadir - 51-55 years old - male

    Posted by atadir Feb 9th, 2012 at 7:45PM

    face the fact that this is the only way to stop hurting yourself.

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8 Answers to "How do you forgive people who have hurt you when they have never asked you to?"

  1. tyringtolive - 46-50 years old - female

    Posted by tyringtolive Feb 9th, 2012 at 7:39PM

    In my world you dont have to. I only forgive those who deserve it. I will never forgive my exhusband for leaving one day.( he got in his truck one day and just drove away never said anything and never came back) If he would have been a man and at least said I dont want to be married anymore maybe. If he has guilt for how he did it I hope he carries it with him. I dont believe forgiveness is for ones self I think it is for the person you are forgiving. Not everyone feels that way though. It is ultimately your call. Sorry this is so long forgiveness is a touch subject for me.

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  2. NeoSmith - 22-25 years old - male

    Posted by NeoSmith Feb 9th, 2012 at 7:32PM

    Look at it this way, you forgive them to make it easier on you. It does not matter what they say or do. Take the high road and be the better person its easier on your conscience. This might not make sense at first, but it does after holding a grudge for a long time.

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  3. dorianblue - 51-55 years old - male

    Posted by dorianblue Feb 9th, 2012 at 7:29PM

    Forgiveness is actually internal. It isn't something that can be given away. You can love someone without them knowing. You can forgive someone without their knowledge as well. I forgave my dad for things he did to my mom, but it was long after he was gone.

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  4. iris108 - 31-35 years old - female

    Reply by iris108 Feb 9th, 2012 at 7:38PM

    Perfectly said. I had a weird experience on this just last year. One night, I was moved to release forgiveness to someone (without his knowing). I wanted to call him but I didn't. But I knew in my heart I forgave him. The next day, a friend came to tell me that he died - the same night & almost the same time I was thinking of him. So there, forgiveness releases you from hatred and the other person, too, from (any possible) guilt.

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  5. mangoes33 - 13-15 years old - female

    Posted by mangoes33 Feb 9th, 2012 at 7:29PM

    If you don't want to forgive them, like the others said, you don't.
    I gues if you want to forgive them, you find a way.

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  6. lowennunn - 61-65 years old - male

    Posted by lowennunn Feb 9th, 2012 at 7:28PM

    just forgive them, let them carry the burden of any guilt that may ensue

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  7. chicagopete - 22-25 years old - male

    Posted by chicagopete Feb 9th, 2012 at 7:28PM

    It just happens in my case

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  8. trev23 - 22-25 years old - male

    Posted by trev23 Feb 9th, 2012 at 7:25PM

    you dont

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