Don't date just make friends and when you find your best friend if they are attractive to you then date them.
I don't date, that's my motto *eats candy*
I go breath and talk to myself in 2nd persona and sometimes 3rd person for hours in order to have confidence to face another human being and I sit there and talk and pretend I'm not scared and that I'm confident. lol
You sit in it. You feel it. You let it wash over you until it hurts like you think you can't catch your breath...might die. But it is so strange, because then its over. Done forever. (Lots and lots of therapy)